I found out about it the day before yesterday, after I got back to school, and apparently he has a fatal infection and could die any minute. I wish I could communicate how much this man has meant to me and what an amazing person he is. I'm just distraught and I can't focus on anything else. I barely made it through yesterday's classes and I've been crying ever since. I have no idea how I'm going to deal with tomorrow's classes without falling apart. My friend's are trying to help, but I think I need to be alone.
I just don't know what to do...
I know that God knows what he's doing and I've been calling on him and putting my faith in him, but oh this is so difficult.
I'm not sure what I'm expecting by putting this out there....I know there are no answers and that I'll probably just get a bunch of responses telling me that God isn't real and that I'm on my own....
but I know that He IS real.
I guess I just need someone to empathize..I'm at college and my grandfather is at home dying....?
rebelduck, listen to me.
I'm a grandfather.
Us grandfathers - we have a habit of dying.
It's as simple as that - and hey, you know what?
We know already how much our grandchildren love us.
We don't need to be told.
We can see it in your eyes.
Go about your life rebelduck.
This is something we all have to go through.I'm at college and my grandfather is at home dying....?
i am sorry for ur unfortunate situation. i don't want u to take this the wrong way at ALL. i just want to encourage you to see the positives...in any situation, no matter how negative they may seem.
first of all..i think you are SO very lucky to have such a great relationship w/ ur grandfather!! my grandparents on my father's side were never very nice or close to us, and died when i was in college........ and my grandfather on my mother's side died when my mother was 9...my grandmother had alzheimer's for over 10 years and didn't know who i was when i went to visit her when i was 8....... anyways, i'm just trying to say that i am Happy for you that u had the chance to be impacted by a wonderful grandfather. he obviously was a great man, for u to think of him so highly. it is sad that he is getting older and sicker, but u Have to try and be strong, and see the positive things that you can be thankful for. do ur best to let him know you love him while he's still here...and when he passes, do your best to show the world how much he means to you BY being your best!!! study harder, be a better student, be a better, person, be a better friend, daughter, sister, niece..Because you have been positively blessed by knowing someone and being close to someone as wonderful as your grandfather.
i think you will be fine..it may take sometime to get thru the tough times.....and u may need to be alone for awhile...but remember, try to surround yourself w/ Positive things. family, friends...not to forget him, but to Celebrate him, and take care of him and be with him as he fights for his life right now. there are Always going to be horrible things in this world, we are not safe from them. but we CAN learn to surround ourselves with Health, Positivity, Goodness, Righteousness, Happiness, Love, Friends, Family...*so that* no matter what happens, u will be strong enough to get thru it. take care, and good luck~
Just make sure that you know how much your grandfather loves you and that you know that he knows how much you love him. It will be hard and it will continue to be hard but you will get through it.
I'm very sorry to hear your family is going through this difficult time.
I hope your grandfather recovers. Keep the faith. God has a plan for you and your grandfather, whether in this life or the next.
God is real and will help you just ask for it. I say try to go see your grandad if possible. Maybe you can make some peace, its hard to deal with Ive been there. Pray..Good luck your not alone..
Hey Rebelduck,
Having lost both my grandfathers i can really feel your pain. Trust that God is able to heal your grandfather but also understand that a reality of people growing old is that people do suffer through difficult illness that sometimes result in death.
From what you've shared it seems that your grandfather has really lived a life with so much to be proud of. i will pray for you and also encourage you to try to be their for your mom- when my grandfather passed away it was so hard on my mom and she told my brother and i she never could have made it through without us.
Prayer: Jesus, please comfort Rebelduck and her family. Allow them in this difficult time to draw closer to you and just for the family to sense your presence and your help. i pray that you would heal Rebel's grandfather and whatever discomfort he may be feeling please do minimize it. i pray that your grace will be upon Rebel as she has school and things to deal with in her life that are very difficult because of her concern for her family. Thank you for giving her such a kind heart to comfort others- and i pray that you will comfort her in the way that only you can Lord. Help her to keep her eyes upon you and to find her strength and hope in You. In Jesus name.
i'll keep praying for u and if you need to share/vent, or anything feel free to email: nicksterlee@yahoo.com
Kindly,
Nickster
I lost ,y grandparents 10 years ago, and not a day goes by where I dont miss them. They were the absolute coolest. My grandmother was a total non conformist, and helped build the planes that my grandfather fler (B17) in WW2. If I were you, I would go home after explaining to your school the situation. Be with your grandfather. As fo God, well, one day, after they had both died, like a year after, I heard in my head a combination of their voices and they said ';Stop wasting your time';. Ill never forget it. So that is my reccomendation. Dont wait for God to make an appearance. Do what would make your grandpa proud, and dont waste your time doing it. :o) I cant believe someone gave my answer a thumbs down. What sort of unfeeling jerk would do such a thing? I paused, so that I could think, and have an answer near the top so it would be seen, because I am VERY empathic, and I feel very much for you because of the relationship I enjoyed with my grandparents for 26 years. Shame on you to whoever negged me.
WOW!!! I am so sorry to hear that. Please don't ever think that God isn't real. He is VERY REAL!! Is there a way you could take a short break from classes to go be with him? I am saddened by your situation, and wish I could make it better for you. He is very lucky to have a granddaughter as special as you.
Oh, I'm sorry. My grandpa died just over a year ago. You might want to start writing how you feel. In my grandpa's case, we think it was heart failure exacerbated by being hit by someone in the nursing home where he was living (a resident, we think, who didn't have full control of her or his emotions or physical reactions). I ended up writing about 30 pages of all the memories I had of him. I found that Psalms in the Bible is very, very comforting. In my case, since I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I also found that the Book of Mormon was comforting. Remember, people think the world of you, and you will see your grandfather again someday. The Resurrection isn't as far away as it used to be.
I'm so sorry; I'll be praying for you. Really, if you could ask your grandfather I'm sure he would want you to continue your studies and do well.
Death is welcome. Pain and suffering is not. Death is sweet release. All that can be done is done.
I am no friend of loss. The loss of a loved one is so very difficult. We tend to hold on to the pain of our loss and the grief as we would hold onto the one we have lost. Sometimes we think that by holding onto grief we hold onto them.
Greave, feel the loss. respect and honor the one who has passed.
Then honor them too by carring on with your life.
I wish you all the best. Your grandpa is with safe hands of God. Whatever his destiny will be, it's gonna be for his own advantage. God is all merciful. Stay strong.
Wow! sorry to hear about your grandfather. Is it that far away that you can't be there? If it is, just remember the good times you had with him and keep him close to your heart!
good luck!
and hang in there...i'm sure it's all normal, everything you're feeling.
God's good but life is tough. One of the greatest comforts to me is that God mourns with us when we suffer. I'll pray for you and your grandpa :)
%26lt;warm loving hugs%26gt; Shhhh.. I know how much you're hurting sweetie.. and it's alright. I will pray for both your grandfather and you..
Is there someone you can talk to at college, like a counselor.. Chaplin. Maybe find a nearby church and go inside.. Maybe light a candle..
You're never alone in this.. God is with you.. and most, if not all, who read this, will be with you as well. %26lt;holds you, and gently rocks%26gt;
you said '; I wish I could communicate how much this man has meant to me and what an amazing person he is ';
you just did :o)
there is no doubt how much you love this man ... and it is that love that will hold him close to your heart even in death
love to you and im sending healing thoughts and prayers that he passes safely and peacefully to his new home when the time is right for him
much love xxx
Talk to a counslor or advisor and see if you can take off from your classes to visit your grandfather (you are not the first student this has happened to, your school should have some sort of plan for this type of occurance). If that isn't an option, write a letter to your grandfather telling him how much you love him and maybe recounting some happy memories that someone could read to him at the hospital for you.
This is a difficult time for anybody, don't be too hard on yourself, there is no real ';right or wrong'; way to deal with it.
Let your professors know what is going on with you, too, so that they will understand if you are distracted in class. Most people have lost someone, so they should understand.
And anyone who picks now to rag on you about your faith is a heartless b*****d who should have their a**es kicked!
my grandfather passed away 1 year ago I feel what your are going through it was a hard time for my whole family. My grandfather was in Mexico so we all went back. You just need to think of it this way he won't be suffering anymore.
Dear sister, let me start out by saying that I'm so sorry for this desert you're walking through right now. Know this though, God is never far from you. He rejoices when you rejoice and he cries when you cry. Know that He is hurting for you and your family right now. He is tucking your Gfather safely under His wing. His Will will be done.
I pray for healing for your Gfather; but more importantly, I pray that your Gfather's relationship is right with the Lord and that if God is ready to take him home, I pray it's quick and painless. I pray for Christ to hold you close and fill you with strength, comfort, and peace.
Let us know how you and your Gfather are doing.
Love %26amp; hugs to you in Christ...
the Creator is real, don't let anybody tell you otherwise
sorry for what you are going through. Let your friends know you appreciate their help but would like to be alone.
Don't worry about the classes too much, you can always catch up later and you need to give yourself some time.
Hopefully Grandpappy is also a believer, in which case you should celebrate his upcoming transition.... Same thing I thought when my Grandma died
Friday, August 20, 2010
I'm looking for a website that will hook me up with military men serving overseas? Does anybody know of one?
How do I find a website that will allow me to communicate with soldiers serving overseas, or ones in military hospitals recovering from injuries received in the line of duty?I'm looking for a website that will hook me up with military men serving overseas? Does anybody know of one?
I think this belongs in the category of fetish.I'm looking for a website that will hook me up with military men serving overseas? Does anybody know of one?
http://www.kavkazcenter.com/eng/
I think this belongs in the category of fetish.I'm looking for a website that will hook me up with military men serving overseas? Does anybody know of one?
http://www.kavkazcenter.com/eng/
Men: if you are interested in a girl would you use facebook to interact or flirt or would you prefer in person
I'm beginning to think Facebook the social networking site, is an impersonal and artificial way to communicate with friends etc. I'm just curious as to how men think of facebook as a medium for flirting or interacting with a woman you are interested in or curious about.. or would you prefer email and face to face. my sense is most men don't like to communicate via email but would prefer to actually talk to people... ie men's emails are typically much shorter than women's in general communication.Men: if you are interested in a girl would you use facebook to interact or flirt or would you prefer in person
I actually did the facebook flirting before. It ended up disastrous. Here is the problem. Email, facebook takes out all of the reality to relationships. I much prefer face to face. That is really the only sure way to go.Men: if you are interested in a girl would you use facebook to interact or flirt or would you prefer in person
it can be used as a tool, i.e, messaging a girl or seomthing to initiate conversation on something like aim, and then setting up a time to meet in real life. Personally, I met my current gf irl on the last day of school, found her myspace and 5 months later we are still together.
some might be to scared in person where others do it to be someone else. Being in person is best with me. You get more out of them longer conversations. facial expressions the whole works.
I don't like meeting people from dating sites because everything is so stat-based and having to define myself in that way makes me feel bad.
Also, I find I get a way better reaction from people when I meet them in person, rather than online.
It is because sometimes is harder to communicate what you want verbally.
Through Facebook or any other sites, people have the time to think carefuly what they want, or what are they thinking, so yeah it helps~
I'm not saying that the person has to do everything trough emails and so,, but it helps somehow.
the normal way , is person, be careful who u met in person,
there may physco guys in the world.
save girl day by day or women
i prefer interaction first through email, later on face to face, don't like flirting.
i guess reanea didnt understand the first word.your giving us a bad name!QUIT!Oh Jung not you too!
I used facebook to get back into contact with someone I was interested in back in high school. We dated right after for about a year and a half. Just ended matter of fact.
I actually did the facebook flirting before. It ended up disastrous. Here is the problem. Email, facebook takes out all of the reality to relationships. I much prefer face to face. That is really the only sure way to go.Men: if you are interested in a girl would you use facebook to interact or flirt or would you prefer in person
it can be used as a tool, i.e, messaging a girl or seomthing to initiate conversation on something like aim, and then setting up a time to meet in real life. Personally, I met my current gf irl on the last day of school, found her myspace and 5 months later we are still together.
some might be to scared in person where others do it to be someone else. Being in person is best with me. You get more out of them longer conversations. facial expressions the whole works.
I don't like meeting people from dating sites because everything is so stat-based and having to define myself in that way makes me feel bad.
Also, I find I get a way better reaction from people when I meet them in person, rather than online.
It is because sometimes is harder to communicate what you want verbally.
Through Facebook or any other sites, people have the time to think carefuly what they want, or what are they thinking, so yeah it helps~
I'm not saying that the person has to do everything trough emails and so,, but it helps somehow.
the normal way , is person, be careful who u met in person,
there may physco guys in the world.
save girl day by day or women
i prefer interaction first through email, later on face to face, don't like flirting.
i guess reanea didnt understand the first word.your giving us a bad name!QUIT!Oh Jung not you too!
I used facebook to get back into contact with someone I was interested in back in high school. We dated right after for about a year and a half. Just ended matter of fact.
My wife phones back my men friends whenever she knows them?
I like travelling with ma wife. But whenever we go to visit my friend who is also a man, sometimes my wife starts communicating with him without telling me. I come to discover it through my friend. How she gets the contact, I do not know.She even plans for a drink with him without my knowledge.What might be wrong with my wife_ How can I trust her-My wife phones back my men friends whenever she knows them?
I think she is a compulsive Dater. I dont think it will be incorrect by not trusting her. May be she is looking for a second option or an extra marital..
Be careful ur marriage can be ON THE ROCKS....
Another possibility can be she is trying to dig into your past by talking to such friends.... so be careful...........
But in the cases, talking will help.... after all its ur own wife...
Sort it out....My wife phones back my men friends whenever she knows them?
she probably wants to get close to them or she probably is trying to get back at u for sumthing u had done. if she is doing it secretly and trying to hid sumthing, she wouldnt have done it with a friend of urs.
I had a girlfriend like that . That is exactly why she has been married 4 times.She had 4 good husbands they worked paide the bills didn t beat her were great to her daughter as she saide great in bed .But she just could not stop calling guys going to lunch with them talking to them while her husband was home.Her husbands bought her jewerly clothes they never forgot birthdays anniveraries sent flowers.She was just obsessed with talking to guy friends on the phone I think she is old and lonely now .Hopefully one of those guy friends is still calling Because when she calls her ex husbands nobody is home
dont trust her
The truth is that your wife kind of like your friend and which to know himk more.be carefull it may be dangerious to you.
Is this contact with the same guy or different male friends that you visit?
I think she is a compulsive Dater. I dont think it will be incorrect by not trusting her. May be she is looking for a second option or an extra marital..
Be careful ur marriage can be ON THE ROCKS....
Another possibility can be she is trying to dig into your past by talking to such friends.... so be careful...........
But in the cases, talking will help.... after all its ur own wife...
Sort it out....My wife phones back my men friends whenever she knows them?
she probably wants to get close to them or she probably is trying to get back at u for sumthing u had done. if she is doing it secretly and trying to hid sumthing, she wouldnt have done it with a friend of urs.
I had a girlfriend like that . That is exactly why she has been married 4 times.She had 4 good husbands they worked paide the bills didn t beat her were great to her daughter as she saide great in bed .But she just could not stop calling guys going to lunch with them talking to them while her husband was home.Her husbands bought her jewerly clothes they never forgot birthdays anniveraries sent flowers.She was just obsessed with talking to guy friends on the phone I think she is old and lonely now .Hopefully one of those guy friends is still calling Because when she calls her ex husbands nobody is home
dont trust her
The truth is that your wife kind of like your friend and which to know himk more.be carefull it may be dangerious to you.
Is this contact with the same guy or different male friends that you visit?
So many marriage issues yet no true help.?
My friend and I were talking about marraiges. He has a miserable one like mine. He does not get enough sex and really lack of communication etc. He is not blaming her or whatever. He said to me which makes great sense. Instead of having pre-religious ( prekayna) classes they should have classes like : how to please your woman. How to please your man. How to communicate stuff like that.
These to be given by people who are happily married or people who have divorced. All these kind of things. Knid of like warnings.
What do you think? Now that I have been with my wife 15 years I know alot that I didn't know when I was just getting married. It would have helped me a lot.So many marriage issues yet no true help.?
Marriage is what you make it.
It is difficult to remain in a relationship with just one person....and think on it as forever...as the vows suggest.
It is work, it is compromise, it is having sex when you really just don't feel like it.
People that first get married have no idea of the road ahead of them. The problems that WILL arise. It's how you deal with it that counts.
Love is a choice......not just a feeling.So many marriage issues yet no true help.?
I AGREE with you so much!! Had gone through a divorce myself I noticed the same thing and this is what I came up with: In the 1950's there were all of these magazines, books, and tv telling women how to be a better wife. Now the media tells women ' how to look sexy for their ';man';', not their husbands. I think the media (ie womens or even mens magaizines) could make big bucks offering marriage advice and communication skills between husbands and wives.
What Im trying to say here is in the 1950's the media supported marriages and offered family advice. If the present media offered the support (but obviously with a modern twist of men and women's rolls in the house) then maybe people wouldnt be so quick to drop their spouse.
Being very general, I think you guys are spending too much time talking to each other. I mean, most marriages I have encountered with problems, are largely because the couples become 'comfortable' with each other. Then they seek excitement out side of the marriage. Seek excitement inside the marriage. Act like you want to be with your spouse more than anything in the world. Act like you are in love. And you soon will be. If you have a fantasy about someone else, enact it with your spouse.
I can agree with you... why go to a Marriage Counselor that's never been married, having spent 4, 6 or 8 years in college doesn't mean you have the experience to tell me how to save my married. My parents have been married for 50 years, they been through it all, the good the bad, near death experiences and almost getting a divorce about 40 years ago. WHO WOULD YOU RATHER GET HELP FROM. I think the bible is a great tool but if you are catholic what does a priest know about marriage. The bible can tell a lot of wonderful things about marriage but there are time when you want to here someone opinion on something that has been through the trenches.
Umm.. most marriage now a days fail because people give up too easily %26amp; are getting more and more disrespectful. Just because you're unhappy in a marriage doesn't mean it's over.. it means there needs to be work. Lack of sex is no excuse to cheat.. I think men that cheat are pussy's because instead of talking to their wives or girlfriends about it.. they just act on it. The best way to heal marriage wounds is to speak directly with your spouse and work from there.. I hate how people always listen to others.. their problems %26amp; fixes might not be yours.
They do have classes and there are all kinds of resources in the community. Stop your whining and own up to your responsibility as a husband and accept the fact that the state of your marriage has everything to do with you. Stop talking to your buddy and talk to your wife.
I know several people in unhappy marriages. Things have changed over the years. Relationships didn't have the pressures they do today. They are cheap today. With a 50% divorce rate, why go there. People take each other for granted! They let themselves go. Men and women are just different and understanding this difference is part of the battle. Understanding why things are black %26amp; white for men and why things are emotional for women...etc.
You have to make dates for you and your spouse. Go somewhere new. Do something off the wall. Do it once a month.
People can only learn so much from a class. Experience will be their best teacher.
i believe that couples who arent really happy owe it to themselves to change. we are only here for 70-80years or so, which is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. no one should waste that time living unhappy and depressed. i believe in taking inventory of my life and if something makes me unhappy, i also believe in working on that until i am happy with it. the more of those issues you resolve, the happier you become as a person.
couples have therapists, pastors and other options to work on thier relationships. if you cannot communicate, go learn how. if your sex life isnt what it should be, find out why and fix it. life is a choice and it is ruled by the ones we make. nothing is beyond fixing, even if something the way to fix it is to walk away. you just have to try and learn when and how to do what you need to do.cat skin problem tvs
These to be given by people who are happily married or people who have divorced. All these kind of things. Knid of like warnings.
What do you think? Now that I have been with my wife 15 years I know alot that I didn't know when I was just getting married. It would have helped me a lot.So many marriage issues yet no true help.?
Marriage is what you make it.
It is difficult to remain in a relationship with just one person....and think on it as forever...as the vows suggest.
It is work, it is compromise, it is having sex when you really just don't feel like it.
People that first get married have no idea of the road ahead of them. The problems that WILL arise. It's how you deal with it that counts.
Love is a choice......not just a feeling.So many marriage issues yet no true help.?
I AGREE with you so much!! Had gone through a divorce myself I noticed the same thing and this is what I came up with: In the 1950's there were all of these magazines, books, and tv telling women how to be a better wife. Now the media tells women ' how to look sexy for their ';man';', not their husbands. I think the media (ie womens or even mens magaizines) could make big bucks offering marriage advice and communication skills between husbands and wives.
What Im trying to say here is in the 1950's the media supported marriages and offered family advice. If the present media offered the support (but obviously with a modern twist of men and women's rolls in the house) then maybe people wouldnt be so quick to drop their spouse.
Being very general, I think you guys are spending too much time talking to each other. I mean, most marriages I have encountered with problems, are largely because the couples become 'comfortable' with each other. Then they seek excitement out side of the marriage. Seek excitement inside the marriage. Act like you want to be with your spouse more than anything in the world. Act like you are in love. And you soon will be. If you have a fantasy about someone else, enact it with your spouse.
I can agree with you... why go to a Marriage Counselor that's never been married, having spent 4, 6 or 8 years in college doesn't mean you have the experience to tell me how to save my married. My parents have been married for 50 years, they been through it all, the good the bad, near death experiences and almost getting a divorce about 40 years ago. WHO WOULD YOU RATHER GET HELP FROM. I think the bible is a great tool but if you are catholic what does a priest know about marriage. The bible can tell a lot of wonderful things about marriage but there are time when you want to here someone opinion on something that has been through the trenches.
Umm.. most marriage now a days fail because people give up too easily %26amp; are getting more and more disrespectful. Just because you're unhappy in a marriage doesn't mean it's over.. it means there needs to be work. Lack of sex is no excuse to cheat.. I think men that cheat are pussy's because instead of talking to their wives or girlfriends about it.. they just act on it. The best way to heal marriage wounds is to speak directly with your spouse and work from there.. I hate how people always listen to others.. their problems %26amp; fixes might not be yours.
They do have classes and there are all kinds of resources in the community. Stop your whining and own up to your responsibility as a husband and accept the fact that the state of your marriage has everything to do with you. Stop talking to your buddy and talk to your wife.
I know several people in unhappy marriages. Things have changed over the years. Relationships didn't have the pressures they do today. They are cheap today. With a 50% divorce rate, why go there. People take each other for granted! They let themselves go. Men and women are just different and understanding this difference is part of the battle. Understanding why things are black %26amp; white for men and why things are emotional for women...etc.
You have to make dates for you and your spouse. Go somewhere new. Do something off the wall. Do it once a month.
People can only learn so much from a class. Experience will be their best teacher.
i believe that couples who arent really happy owe it to themselves to change. we are only here for 70-80years or so, which is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. no one should waste that time living unhappy and depressed. i believe in taking inventory of my life and if something makes me unhappy, i also believe in working on that until i am happy with it. the more of those issues you resolve, the happier you become as a person.
couples have therapists, pastors and other options to work on thier relationships. if you cannot communicate, go learn how. if your sex life isnt what it should be, find out why and fix it. life is a choice and it is ruled by the ones we make. nothing is beyond fixing, even if something the way to fix it is to walk away. you just have to try and learn when and how to do what you need to do.
How is it that some people can be so cold hearted to the one's they claim they love?
Ok, so I've been dating this girl for the past 1 and a half. She is the coolest thing after sliced bread. All my friends love her.. She cool to be around, we go out, drink, party, dinner, can be completely loveable and awesome, BUT don't let her get mad. She will just breakup with you on the spot (if that). The littlest stupid things will trigger her to jsut erase you from her life. we started off as friends, then when we got intimate and serious, the crazy came out.
Now, I am the most attentive, loving, caring person towards her. I jump through hoops and try my best to make her life simple. She tells me from time to time, I'm her best friend, I'm great. Although she has trouble expressing her feelings, she tries to be cool with me. UNTIL, she gets mad over agian non-sense.
Ok, let me paint a better picture. In Dec, of last year on x-mas day, I send out a text to everyone and get pretty spriritual. She answers me joking ';wow, what got into you, preaching the good word?'; I respond jokin: ';oh please why can't you be liek everyoen esle and jsut say merry x-mas?'; I said very inocently... She went off and broke up with me and said, ';oh, I'm not like everyone else, I will never change for anyone.. etc. etc. etc. New Years Day we make up. Mind you she has broken up with me 6 times in the past year and a half and I always do teh song and dance to get her back
Next example: Just this past saturday, we had a cool double date with my cuz and his new girl... My cuz is 21. All day I had spent it with her doign stuff around her apartment. We get lovey dovey, then late ron that night, I say to her, I get romantic and say I would love to spend the night with you, jsut to sleep next to you.. SHe says cool... I forgot I had made plans in the morining. So instead of jsut saying no, I asked my cuz about whether or not I really need to keep my previous arrangements, that hmmm, what should I do. She gets mad and says that why don't I jsut man up and communicate and say I can't make it. Mind you, I'm jsut trying to figure things out before I say a true yes or no... Till this day she wont talk to me, she wont take my emails, my calls, or texts. Emails me and says, that somewhere down the road she sure or hopes we can be friends liek before. But right now, she doesn't want to talk to me and that we are thru.
Now, I did spend a few weeks trying to get her to show me she appreciates me and basically tellign her she very cold with me. Now she makes an attempt to be lovey dovey and cute and stuff, and I just didn't giv eher a straight answer because I was trying to figure stuff out before I give a definite answer.
Bottom line, she wants nothign to do with me now.. ZERO!!
PS. She hasn't spoke to her entire famiyl in 7 months. Due to a small argument she had with her mom.
She's 30 yrs old
I'm 34 yrs old
She had awesome guys in ther life and has ruined every relationship because of her craziness... The sad part is she knwos she wrongs but doesn't care and rather spent more time and energy ruining relationships and being and a runing away from people that takig that energy into making a relationship work.
She also ousted all her friends for no reason.
Now can someone give me a sense of what the hell is up with this woman????How is it that some people can be so cold hearted to the one's they claim they love?
shes a girl. she doesnt know what she wants. she cant handle being happy and has to screw everything so she can have drama. you dont need a girl that only acts like she cares when you try being an ***. your better off man
Now, I am the most attentive, loving, caring person towards her. I jump through hoops and try my best to make her life simple. She tells me from time to time, I'm her best friend, I'm great. Although she has trouble expressing her feelings, she tries to be cool with me. UNTIL, she gets mad over agian non-sense.
Ok, let me paint a better picture. In Dec, of last year on x-mas day, I send out a text to everyone and get pretty spriritual. She answers me joking ';wow, what got into you, preaching the good word?'; I respond jokin: ';oh please why can't you be liek everyoen esle and jsut say merry x-mas?'; I said very inocently... She went off and broke up with me and said, ';oh, I'm not like everyone else, I will never change for anyone.. etc. etc. etc. New Years Day we make up. Mind you she has broken up with me 6 times in the past year and a half and I always do teh song and dance to get her back
Next example: Just this past saturday, we had a cool double date with my cuz and his new girl... My cuz is 21. All day I had spent it with her doign stuff around her apartment. We get lovey dovey, then late ron that night, I say to her, I get romantic and say I would love to spend the night with you, jsut to sleep next to you.. SHe says cool... I forgot I had made plans in the morining. So instead of jsut saying no, I asked my cuz about whether or not I really need to keep my previous arrangements, that hmmm, what should I do. She gets mad and says that why don't I jsut man up and communicate and say I can't make it. Mind you, I'm jsut trying to figure things out before I say a true yes or no... Till this day she wont talk to me, she wont take my emails, my calls, or texts. Emails me and says, that somewhere down the road she sure or hopes we can be friends liek before. But right now, she doesn't want to talk to me and that we are thru.
Now, I did spend a few weeks trying to get her to show me she appreciates me and basically tellign her she very cold with me. Now she makes an attempt to be lovey dovey and cute and stuff, and I just didn't giv eher a straight answer because I was trying to figure stuff out before I give a definite answer.
Bottom line, she wants nothign to do with me now.. ZERO!!
PS. She hasn't spoke to her entire famiyl in 7 months. Due to a small argument she had with her mom.
She's 30 yrs old
I'm 34 yrs old
She had awesome guys in ther life and has ruined every relationship because of her craziness... The sad part is she knwos she wrongs but doesn't care and rather spent more time and energy ruining relationships and being and a runing away from people that takig that energy into making a relationship work.
She also ousted all her friends for no reason.
Now can someone give me a sense of what the hell is up with this woman????How is it that some people can be so cold hearted to the one's they claim they love?
shes a girl. she doesnt know what she wants. she cant handle being happy and has to screw everything so she can have drama. you dont need a girl that only acts like she cares when you try being an ***. your better off man
Checkout this....!!!!!?
A Japanese family just arrived in the United states and stays at a
moderate hotel in New York. As they ride up the elevator to their
suite, a gentleman gets in at the next floor.
Stunned by the beauty of the Japanese daughter, the man tries to
communicate with her, only to find she speaks no English. Undeterred,
the man asks the father if he could take his daughter to dinner.
Having some English experience from his many business trips to the
states, the father communicates to the daughter and dinner plans are
made.
After dinner, they head up to his suite. Well, one thing leads to
another and as he starts going at it she starts moaning ';Oshima!';.
Believing this must mean she's getting into it, he thrusts harder and
harder and she is screaming ';Oshima!, Oshima!!';.
The next morning, the gentleman invites the father to a round of golf,
knowing how much the Japanese love the sport. On the first hole, the
father tees up, and nails a hole in one. Thinking quickly, the
gentleman yells out ';Oshima!!';.
The father, with a complexed look, turns to the man and says...
';What the hell do you mean wrong hole?!';Checkout this....!!!!!?
Letter from Banta Singh of Punjab to
Mr. Bill Gates of Microsoft
Subject: Problems with my new computer
Dear Mr. Bill Gates,
We have bought a computer for our home and we have found some problems, which I want to bring to your notice.
1. There is a button 'start' but there is no 'stop' button. We request you to check this..
2. One doubt is whether any 're-scooter' is available in system? I find only 're-cycle', but I own a scooter at my home.
3. There is 'Find' button but it is not working properly. My wife lost the door key and we tried a lot trace the key with this 'find' button, but was unable to trace. Please rectify this problem.
4. My child learnt 'Microsoft word' now he wants to learn 'Microsoft sentence', so when you will provide that?
5. I bought computer, CPU, mouse and keyboard, but there is only one icon, which shows 'My Computer': when you will providethe remaining items?
6. It is surprising that windows say 'MY Pictures' but there is not even a single photo of mine. So when will you keep my photo in that.
7. There is 'MICROSOFT OFFICE' what about 'MICROSOFT HOME' since I use the PC at home only.
8. You provided 'My Recent Documents'. When you will provide 'My Past Documents'?
9. You provide 'My Network Places'. For God sake please do not provide 'My Secret Places'. I do not want to let my wife know where I go after my office hours.
Regards,
Banta
Singh
Last one to Mr. Bill Gates:
Sir, how is it that your name is Gates but you are selling WINDOWS?Checkout this....!!!!!?
LOL
The head Nun of the convent called all 100 Nuns into the foyer for an emergency meeting.
';Last night,'; She started ';I found something terrible in one of the sisters rooms.';
99 Nuns ';Oh no';
1 Nun ';He, he';
';A condom!'; said the head Nun.
99 Nuns ';Oh no';
1 Nun ';He, he';
Head Nun ';And it was used!';
99 Nuns ';Oh no';
1 Nun ';He, he';
Head Nun ';And it had a hole in it!';
1 Nun ';Oh no';
99 Nuns ';He, he';
This was a repost from 2 years ago... but still d@mn funny!!!
BTW..
The original ';moan'; of this joke was ';CARRUMBA';!!!
hehehehehehehehehehehe..
very funny..
Hahahaha
hilarious =]
thanks!
Very good one!!!!!!!!!
Hahahahaha!!!!!!!!
xD
hahahahahaha!
hahahaha
very funny
Oh my fricken god!!!
hahahahahahaha
that is so sad
hey
its very funny
After a long time, I read really a genuine joke in this forum. Star for you.
nice. and thanks for the japanese lesson.
Heard it before...however, I dare say you have added some spice and it really made me LMAO!!!.
hi
GOOD ONE
wow. thats kinda nasty but its still funny.
moderate hotel in New York. As they ride up the elevator to their
suite, a gentleman gets in at the next floor.
Stunned by the beauty of the Japanese daughter, the man tries to
communicate with her, only to find she speaks no English. Undeterred,
the man asks the father if he could take his daughter to dinner.
Having some English experience from his many business trips to the
states, the father communicates to the daughter and dinner plans are
made.
After dinner, they head up to his suite. Well, one thing leads to
another and as he starts going at it she starts moaning ';Oshima!';.
Believing this must mean she's getting into it, he thrusts harder and
harder and she is screaming ';Oshima!, Oshima!!';.
The next morning, the gentleman invites the father to a round of golf,
knowing how much the Japanese love the sport. On the first hole, the
father tees up, and nails a hole in one. Thinking quickly, the
gentleman yells out ';Oshima!!';.
The father, with a complexed look, turns to the man and says...
';What the hell do you mean wrong hole?!';Checkout this....!!!!!?
Letter from Banta Singh of Punjab to
Mr. Bill Gates of Microsoft
Subject: Problems with my new computer
Dear Mr. Bill Gates,
We have bought a computer for our home and we have found some problems, which I want to bring to your notice.
1. There is a button 'start' but there is no 'stop' button. We request you to check this..
2. One doubt is whether any 're-scooter' is available in system? I find only 're-cycle', but I own a scooter at my home.
3. There is 'Find' button but it is not working properly. My wife lost the door key and we tried a lot trace the key with this 'find' button, but was unable to trace. Please rectify this problem.
4. My child learnt 'Microsoft word' now he wants to learn 'Microsoft sentence', so when you will provide that?
5. I bought computer, CPU, mouse and keyboard, but there is only one icon, which shows 'My Computer': when you will providethe remaining items?
6. It is surprising that windows say 'MY Pictures' but there is not even a single photo of mine. So when will you keep my photo in that.
7. There is 'MICROSOFT OFFICE' what about 'MICROSOFT HOME' since I use the PC at home only.
8. You provided 'My Recent Documents'. When you will provide 'My Past Documents'?
9. You provide 'My Network Places'. For God sake please do not provide 'My Secret Places'. I do not want to let my wife know where I go after my office hours.
Regards,
Banta
Singh
Last one to Mr. Bill Gates:
Sir, how is it that your name is Gates but you are selling WINDOWS?Checkout this....!!!!!?
LOL
The head Nun of the convent called all 100 Nuns into the foyer for an emergency meeting.
';Last night,'; She started ';I found something terrible in one of the sisters rooms.';
99 Nuns ';Oh no';
1 Nun ';He, he';
';A condom!'; said the head Nun.
99 Nuns ';Oh no';
1 Nun ';He, he';
Head Nun ';And it was used!';
99 Nuns ';Oh no';
1 Nun ';He, he';
Head Nun ';And it had a hole in it!';
1 Nun ';Oh no';
99 Nuns ';He, he';
This was a repost from 2 years ago... but still d@mn funny!!!
BTW..
The original ';moan'; of this joke was ';CARRUMBA';!!!
hehehehehehehehehehehe..
very funny..
Hahahaha
hilarious =]
thanks!
Very good one!!!!!!!!!
Hahahahaha!!!!!!!!
xD
hahahahahaha!
hahahaha
very funny
Oh my fricken god!!!
hahahahahahaha
that is so sad
hey
its very funny
After a long time, I read really a genuine joke in this forum. Star for you.
nice. and thanks for the japanese lesson.
Heard it before...however, I dare say you have added some spice and it really made me LMAO!!!.
hi
GOOD ONE
wow. thats kinda nasty but its still funny.
Gay: What Is The Real Meaning?
I've tried manhunt, gay.com, craigslist, match.com and etc. I am sick and tired of being told that I am nobody's type. I am also sick and tired of having head games played against me. One guy tells me lets do drinks together and then he ignores me. When I try to communicate with other gay men, I am told that I am a stalker online.
My question is this: What is being gay really about? It seems to be about good looks, perfect hair and teeth, youth and sex. If you are over the age of 30 you better have the looks of a porn star; so it seems. It is unreal how many guys refuse to date me or be my friend cause I am 35 and don't look like a twink. It is not just the guys 26,27 but also the guys 38, 39 and etc.......
Am I wasting my time being gay?
razz79900@yahoo.comGay: What Is The Real Meaning?
i think it is becasue you are looking online... i know it is tough but try going out to a gay bar or something and find a guy... it is hard and if you feel like you are wasting time then don't do it... but i would say that it is probably worth it. and fyi, not all porn starts are good looking XD
good luck and happy hunting ^^
~*Tear*~Gay: What Is The Real Meaning?
I don't know are you? I am 62 but look like I am in my early forties. I like who I see in the mirror and have made him my best friend. I know how to be by myself as well as continue to be me in a room full of twinks. And I don't think I look like porn star. You have to be happy with yourself before you will be happy with anybody. It has nothing to do with being gay. You and your friend might want to do some self assessments.
Good Luck.
Although I am 15 I will never, and I mean NEVER have that kind of morals when looking for someone. So many people will base it on looks, but there are definently those out there who don't base things on first sight about looks, I sure as hell won't. You aren't waisting your time, I think you just are running into the wrong people.
gay= being happy
or as its used today, having attraction for the same gender.
thats. it. online, ppl are wayyy more shallow. its all abt the looks on the ddating sites, everything else is secondary. a hot guy would catch ur eye, right? whereas a not as attractive guy, ud skip over. its like that. since u dont rly meet those ppl, yea, ppll are shallow. id suggst meeting guys in rl instead. maybe try gay communities/club/bars/etc
%26lt;3
No, it's just society these days. And if no one's into you then why would you want to date them in the first place?
My advice is to go to a gay bar or go clubbing. If a guy's into you then he'll approach you.
It's not just gay people who care about that, everybody does.
well, i must say that i am 19, and i dont prefer the ';twink'; build... there is hope out there, you just have to keep looking and i would say dont try online sites, there are only people on there looking for a fling... i suggest bars and all that jazz
Maybe the trouble is your just trying to meet a guy online, try going out there and meet someone in the real world hun
dont give up
When you find the right guy
he well be worth the waiting for
Being happy is the first meaning, but the recent meaning is commonly accepted in America as a homosexual male.
Happy =]
Are you wasting your time being gay? Um...I am speechless.
Loving and being attracted to people of the same sex. Stereotypically, we're all about sex....so false...
I am 57 years old, a little paunchy, and am by no means a slave to fashion. I have absolutely no trouble getting men to go out with me, so not everyone is as shallow as the people you have come across.
I admit that the chatters on gay.com can be very cruel. They seem to think that they're God's gift to gaydom, and that absolutely everyone would fall over themselves to get to go with them. These are just the kind of people I don't want anything to do with. To borrow from Marian the Librarian in the Music Man, I want someone who's more interested in me than he is in himself, and more interested in us than in me.
Don't give up. He's out there looking for you.
I think your looking in the wrong places. Everything you mentioned is for people who are looking for sex and not a relationship. One of my best friends was a gay man (he recently died from AIDS) and I'm telling you all he ever did was look for his next lay. He was a pretty twink boy but it sure didn't last long.
Change your tactics and start hanging out where the other older gay men hang out. Find out where your local gay church is and start going. You can become active in the male groups they have there. Find other gay social groups and hang out with them. Go there looking for friendships instead of love and perhaps you will find your soulmate.
You are 'meeting' the wrong guys.
I am in a similar boat. I don't want to meet up with these kinds of guys anyhow.... Now if I could just stop meeting severe closet cases or married guys that hide their wife until our third date, I'll be great.
The problem is we are putting our-self in these situations where we are meeting these kind of men...
The right guy is out there for you... and for me. We just have to change the vibe we are giving off... Now how do we follow my advice?
';Am I wasting my time being gay?';
As opposed to being straight, you mean?
This question makes no sense.
If you're truly gay, then being attracted to men is an intrinsic part of who you are. Asking this question is like asking ';Am I wasting my time being left-handed?'; or ';Am I wasting my time being blue-eyed?';
Where you're wasting your time is in trying to find men online. If you want to find Mr Right, you're not likely to find him there. If you live in a metro area of any size, there are bound to be GLBT social organizations, clubs, and houses of worship that are GLBT-friendly. Turn off the computer, get up out of the chair, clean yourself up and GET OUT OF THE HOUSE and go meet some real live men. Get to know them, give them a chance to get to know you, make some gay friends, and see where those friendships go.
My question is this: What is being gay really about? It seems to be about good looks, perfect hair and teeth, youth and sex. If you are over the age of 30 you better have the looks of a porn star; so it seems. It is unreal how many guys refuse to date me or be my friend cause I am 35 and don't look like a twink. It is not just the guys 26,27 but also the guys 38, 39 and etc.......
Am I wasting my time being gay?
razz79900@yahoo.comGay: What Is The Real Meaning?
i think it is becasue you are looking online... i know it is tough but try going out to a gay bar or something and find a guy... it is hard and if you feel like you are wasting time then don't do it... but i would say that it is probably worth it. and fyi, not all porn starts are good looking XD
good luck and happy hunting ^^
~*Tear*~Gay: What Is The Real Meaning?
I don't know are you? I am 62 but look like I am in my early forties. I like who I see in the mirror and have made him my best friend. I know how to be by myself as well as continue to be me in a room full of twinks. And I don't think I look like porn star. You have to be happy with yourself before you will be happy with anybody. It has nothing to do with being gay. You and your friend might want to do some self assessments.
Good Luck.
Although I am 15 I will never, and I mean NEVER have that kind of morals when looking for someone. So many people will base it on looks, but there are definently those out there who don't base things on first sight about looks, I sure as hell won't. You aren't waisting your time, I think you just are running into the wrong people.
gay= being happy
or as its used today, having attraction for the same gender.
thats. it. online, ppl are wayyy more shallow. its all abt the looks on the ddating sites, everything else is secondary. a hot guy would catch ur eye, right? whereas a not as attractive guy, ud skip over. its like that. since u dont rly meet those ppl, yea, ppll are shallow. id suggst meeting guys in rl instead. maybe try gay communities/club/bars/etc
%26lt;3
No, it's just society these days. And if no one's into you then why would you want to date them in the first place?
My advice is to go to a gay bar or go clubbing. If a guy's into you then he'll approach you.
It's not just gay people who care about that, everybody does.
well, i must say that i am 19, and i dont prefer the ';twink'; build... there is hope out there, you just have to keep looking and i would say dont try online sites, there are only people on there looking for a fling... i suggest bars and all that jazz
Maybe the trouble is your just trying to meet a guy online, try going out there and meet someone in the real world hun
dont give up
When you find the right guy
he well be worth the waiting for
Being happy is the first meaning, but the recent meaning is commonly accepted in America as a homosexual male.
Happy =]
Are you wasting your time being gay? Um...I am speechless.
Loving and being attracted to people of the same sex. Stereotypically, we're all about sex....so false...
I am 57 years old, a little paunchy, and am by no means a slave to fashion. I have absolutely no trouble getting men to go out with me, so not everyone is as shallow as the people you have come across.
I admit that the chatters on gay.com can be very cruel. They seem to think that they're God's gift to gaydom, and that absolutely everyone would fall over themselves to get to go with them. These are just the kind of people I don't want anything to do with. To borrow from Marian the Librarian in the Music Man, I want someone who's more interested in me than he is in himself, and more interested in us than in me.
Don't give up. He's out there looking for you.
I think your looking in the wrong places. Everything you mentioned is for people who are looking for sex and not a relationship. One of my best friends was a gay man (he recently died from AIDS) and I'm telling you all he ever did was look for his next lay. He was a pretty twink boy but it sure didn't last long.
Change your tactics and start hanging out where the other older gay men hang out. Find out where your local gay church is and start going. You can become active in the male groups they have there. Find other gay social groups and hang out with them. Go there looking for friendships instead of love and perhaps you will find your soulmate.
You are 'meeting' the wrong guys.
I am in a similar boat. I don't want to meet up with these kinds of guys anyhow.... Now if I could just stop meeting severe closet cases or married guys that hide their wife until our third date, I'll be great.
The problem is we are putting our-self in these situations where we are meeting these kind of men...
The right guy is out there for you... and for me. We just have to change the vibe we are giving off... Now how do we follow my advice?
';Am I wasting my time being gay?';
As opposed to being straight, you mean?
This question makes no sense.
If you're truly gay, then being attracted to men is an intrinsic part of who you are. Asking this question is like asking ';Am I wasting my time being left-handed?'; or ';Am I wasting my time being blue-eyed?';
Where you're wasting your time is in trying to find men online. If you want to find Mr Right, you're not likely to find him there. If you live in a metro area of any size, there are bound to be GLBT social organizations, clubs, and houses of worship that are GLBT-friendly. Turn off the computer, get up out of the chair, clean yourself up and GET OUT OF THE HOUSE and go meet some real live men. Get to know them, give them a chance to get to know you, make some gay friends, and see where those friendships go.
More female hypocrisy?
Jazz said: Hmm, don't women complain a lot about men who ';don't communicate';? So when men give an honest opinion about a haircut or her cooking, she doesn't want to hear it unless it's something positive? How childish. A man can't even relay how stressful work is because apparently being a housemom is 10 times worse? Don't women also complain about fathers not spending time with their children? so when a man offers to watch the kids he's still in the wrong for offering?
This was a comment on an article about ';10 things Husbands should never do';. I thought what Jazz said was very true. Women don't want to hear anything against them. They only want positive comments, even if it means lying. Somehow, society has portrayed housewives as a bad thing, so now there is a prevailing attitude that housework is harder than any job. Oh, you're back from fighting in Afghanistan, honey? Is that a scar? Well, I've been doing the laundry! Don't think you've got it so bloody hard you selfish bastard!
How is a woman who creates and maintains a family a bad thing? Aside from that often two incomes are necessary in a household - because society does view housewives as pitiful figures.More female hypocrisy?
A women who keeps house and raises kids works the equivalent of two full time jobs, if you ever watch Dr Phil you would know this. And women do hear the nice thing hubby says but you missed the point. She wants emotion something men shut off when they dont get their own way and act like children. You sound young and uneducated, try reading a book.More female hypocrisy?
Female responder here. First of all, props to KittyKat--well put. Secondly, Jazz isn't speaking for EVERY man / woman dynamic--he's making sweeping generalizations. Third, I'd kill to be financially stable enough to be a housewife. So there you go :-)
Okay, let's expound: If a person (guy or girl) offers negative opinions without being asked, yes, he / she is being ';negative';. Conversely, if a person asks for another's opinion and doesn't get the answer they wanted to hear, then they shouldn't have asked the question. Shame on them for asking for phony validation.
Yeah, some women do complain about their husband's lack of attentiveness toward their children. I don't have kids so I can't speak from personal experience other than having an absentee dad myself. My two bits are: if you're too busy, broke or disinterested, don't have kids. If that option comes too late, do everything you can to make your kids' lives worth living--you owe it to them.
It all comes down to balance and taking responsibility for your own sh*t. No need to blame either gender when you've got your own life to manage.
There is nothing wrong with stay at home mothers.
I honestly do believe that they have one of the hardest jobs- it never ends.
But stay at home wives (without children) seem a bit pathetic to me.
What does a stay at home wife do? How are they any different from people who are just lazy and don't want to get a job?
@ bookgirl. Turn off your god forsaken tv and read a book! Men don't shut off, they function differently. When an emotion 'registers' they don't feel a strong need to react to it every time. That's not to say they're cold as when an emotion 'registers' strongly they give off a strong reaction. The only situation I can think off where they shut off is when something 'registers' painfully but even then not every man would do that.
If you're going to stereotype at least do it in such a way that it is relevant and not based on something a famous person who's job depends on being biased toward women or the feminazis will chase him with their pitchforks. Wait no, they wouldn't have pitched forks as working in the garden/veggie patch makes you an old-fashion servant of men. Maybe they'd use pepper spray as they're 'modern women'
I am a woman and I dont think that being a housewife is as hard as having a job. I have a kid and I still dont think that. Its much harder being a parent and working at the same time so I wouldnt listen to anyone that said that personally. I work 25 hours a week and look after my child the whole time she comes to work with me as I work in a nursery. I also do a lot of the cooking and cleaning but I dont think my life is 1/5 as hard as my husbands life but thats just how I feel. He does 40 hours a week in a warehouse and is outside a lot in the rain and cold with a lot of manual labour and to me that is loads harder.
my opinion but my mum and dad always said having kids shouldnt be an excuse not to contribute so its my upbringing that wont let me sit at home. I want to be a good role model to my child, help my husband out and put something back in to society which is why I work.
Anyone that moans staying at home looking after a couple of kids and tidying is hard is ridiculous. I do all that and look after 30 when I get to work and it still isnt that hard really. I mean there are times I get stressed out, tired and am busy but its not like I am working down a coalmine or anything. I have done a lot of much harder, worse jobs than what I am doing now. I really cant stand moaning housewives personally
Usually not communicating has nothing to do with sharing opinions, but rather emotions.
Usually upsetment over honest opinions has nothing to do with the opinion itself, but rather the hurtful way it's expressed.
You seem to be awfully fond of sweeping, laughable generalizations. Your post is more a rant than anything.
I don't think being a housewife is particularly hard, but as far as I know most married women nowadays aren't housewives, they are all busy 'juggling' a job and a family.
I do think women are inclined to be touchy if men offer criticism of anything they do, I know I am, though I am getting better at accepting it.
And I think a man should be able to talk about work being stressful, any woman who objects to that is highly unreasonable in my opinion.
And if you are a housewife, then the day-to-day care of the children is your responsibility rather than your husband's, and you should be pleased if he offers to look after them while you go out.
I think this list of things not to do is pretty silly actually.
This was a comment on an article about ';10 things Husbands should never do';. I thought what Jazz said was very true. Women don't want to hear anything against them. They only want positive comments, even if it means lying. Somehow, society has portrayed housewives as a bad thing, so now there is a prevailing attitude that housework is harder than any job. Oh, you're back from fighting in Afghanistan, honey? Is that a scar? Well, I've been doing the laundry! Don't think you've got it so bloody hard you selfish bastard!
How is a woman who creates and maintains a family a bad thing? Aside from that often two incomes are necessary in a household - because society does view housewives as pitiful figures.More female hypocrisy?
A women who keeps house and raises kids works the equivalent of two full time jobs, if you ever watch Dr Phil you would know this. And women do hear the nice thing hubby says but you missed the point. She wants emotion something men shut off when they dont get their own way and act like children. You sound young and uneducated, try reading a book.More female hypocrisy?
Female responder here. First of all, props to KittyKat--well put. Secondly, Jazz isn't speaking for EVERY man / woman dynamic--he's making sweeping generalizations. Third, I'd kill to be financially stable enough to be a housewife. So there you go :-)
Okay, let's expound: If a person (guy or girl) offers negative opinions without being asked, yes, he / she is being ';negative';. Conversely, if a person asks for another's opinion and doesn't get the answer they wanted to hear, then they shouldn't have asked the question. Shame on them for asking for phony validation.
Yeah, some women do complain about their husband's lack of attentiveness toward their children. I don't have kids so I can't speak from personal experience other than having an absentee dad myself. My two bits are: if you're too busy, broke or disinterested, don't have kids. If that option comes too late, do everything you can to make your kids' lives worth living--you owe it to them.
It all comes down to balance and taking responsibility for your own sh*t. No need to blame either gender when you've got your own life to manage.
There is nothing wrong with stay at home mothers.
I honestly do believe that they have one of the hardest jobs- it never ends.
But stay at home wives (without children) seem a bit pathetic to me.
What does a stay at home wife do? How are they any different from people who are just lazy and don't want to get a job?
@ bookgirl. Turn off your god forsaken tv and read a book! Men don't shut off, they function differently. When an emotion 'registers' they don't feel a strong need to react to it every time. That's not to say they're cold as when an emotion 'registers' strongly they give off a strong reaction. The only situation I can think off where they shut off is when something 'registers' painfully but even then not every man would do that.
If you're going to stereotype at least do it in such a way that it is relevant and not based on something a famous person who's job depends on being biased toward women or the feminazis will chase him with their pitchforks. Wait no, they wouldn't have pitched forks as working in the garden/veggie patch makes you an old-fashion servant of men. Maybe they'd use pepper spray as they're 'modern women'
I am a woman and I dont think that being a housewife is as hard as having a job. I have a kid and I still dont think that. Its much harder being a parent and working at the same time so I wouldnt listen to anyone that said that personally. I work 25 hours a week and look after my child the whole time she comes to work with me as I work in a nursery. I also do a lot of the cooking and cleaning but I dont think my life is 1/5 as hard as my husbands life but thats just how I feel. He does 40 hours a week in a warehouse and is outside a lot in the rain and cold with a lot of manual labour and to me that is loads harder.
my opinion but my mum and dad always said having kids shouldnt be an excuse not to contribute so its my upbringing that wont let me sit at home. I want to be a good role model to my child, help my husband out and put something back in to society which is why I work.
Anyone that moans staying at home looking after a couple of kids and tidying is hard is ridiculous. I do all that and look after 30 when I get to work and it still isnt that hard really. I mean there are times I get stressed out, tired and am busy but its not like I am working down a coalmine or anything. I have done a lot of much harder, worse jobs than what I am doing now. I really cant stand moaning housewives personally
Usually not communicating has nothing to do with sharing opinions, but rather emotions.
Usually upsetment over honest opinions has nothing to do with the opinion itself, but rather the hurtful way it's expressed.
You seem to be awfully fond of sweeping, laughable generalizations. Your post is more a rant than anything.
I don't think being a housewife is particularly hard, but as far as I know most married women nowadays aren't housewives, they are all busy 'juggling' a job and a family.
I do think women are inclined to be touchy if men offer criticism of anything they do, I know I am, though I am getting better at accepting it.
And I think a man should be able to talk about work being stressful, any woman who objects to that is highly unreasonable in my opinion.
And if you are a housewife, then the day-to-day care of the children is your responsibility rather than your husband's, and you should be pleased if he offers to look after them while you go out.
I think this list of things not to do is pretty silly actually.
Boyfriend and i keep getting into fights because we miscommunicate and he doesn't get what i'm REALLY saying?
I love my boyfriend. We've been together for almost 4 years. Since I was just barely 16. We have been doing great for the past 8 months, after a lot of ups and downs before that. Now it seems like we've met another down. He finds the littlest things and it makes him angry. He wants his space to chill and drink with his buddies (which I don't currently know very well or trust). I want him to be able to do those types of things when he needs it, but I want to be able to communicate with him about how I feel as well. He thinks I'm trying to be a nagging, controlling mother to him, when I'm really trying to ask for mutual respect and communication. I've had a lot of losses in my life, and now it's hard for me to let people go, even for a short period of time, because it slightly scares me. How can I talk to an extremely stubborn and prideful male, and have him respect what I have to say? I respect him and his wishes, but I dont think that he realizes that, or maybe he doesn't believe it. I try hard not to nag, but as a woman, i just like to talk about what's on my mind. If I'm upset, I want to be able to express that and then work it out, then get over it and move on. To him, if i'm upset, he puts up this mental wall, and immediately gets angry and cold, and lets his pride take over for a few days, instead of trying to understand. I know men and women are very different in the way they communicate. Is there some way that I can talk to the love of my life, and not have him take it the wrong way? Is there some way that I can get respect in return? Example: he's been very close to me for the past few months, and then in the past three weeks, he's deliberately avoided inviting me to his christmas party, friend's birthday parties, etc, and he says he needs his space. I can give space, but during this time of christmas is supposed to be a time of being together and enjoying one another. I tried to express that i was frustrated with being left out of so many things, and he said im just trying to be crammed up his bum and never want to leave him alone. I guess I feel abandoned at one of the few times i really want to be close to him. We got into an argument tonight because i let my frustration show 3 times via text message while he was getting drunk at a friends house (the day after christmas) and now he's so angry for ruining his time with his friends that he wont speak to me. HOW can i possibly communicate with a stubborn man? He's not a jerk, and I know he loves me, but he goes through phases of wanting to be close to me, and then wanting to be very very far away. I probably would have tolerated it better if the timing hadn't been the whole week of christmas. Am I wrong in being offended and kind of hurt by this? How do I patch things up and really show him that i want him to have fun, but somethings are just beyond my comfort zone and they make me upset. I want to respect how upset HE is as well, and fully understand why he feels this way, but he doesnt talk about how he feels, and the lack of listening that he gives me and the lack of understanding, or at least willingness to try to work something out, frustrates me to no end. Any ideas on how to deal with stubborn snarly males?Boyfriend and i keep getting into fights because we miscommunicate and he doesn't get what i'm REALLY saying?
Too long, did not read.Boyfriend and i keep getting into fights because we miscommunicate and he doesn't get what i'm REALLY saying?
he's your boyfriend, not your girlfriend, once you try to make him into your confidant, things will go downhill rapidly.
Men retreat to their ';lair'; to figure things out, women want to talk and get empathy. You see the contrast?
You're both having a rough time, and you both want to figure things out, I'd suggest giving each other space and resorting to your friends.
Too long, did not read.Boyfriend and i keep getting into fights because we miscommunicate and he doesn't get what i'm REALLY saying?
he's your boyfriend, not your girlfriend, once you try to make him into your confidant, things will go downhill rapidly.
Men retreat to their ';lair'; to figure things out, women want to talk and get empathy. You see the contrast?
You're both having a rough time, and you both want to figure things out, I'd suggest giving each other space and resorting to your friends.
How do you translate this paragraph into perfect, grammatical spanish?
Anyone who speaks spanish fluently or has studied the language well enough can help me with this paragraph. I want to translate this following paragraph from english to spanish. Preferably the spanish that is studied in spanish classrooms. Also, what is a really good spanish translator website that works the best?
Communication is very important to the prosperity of humankind.Communication comes in many forms such as listening, talking, reading, writing or drawing. Actors commuincate through speech and movement to get a message across in a play or movie. Family, friends, relationship partners and co-workers have to communicate well with each other so that important and relevant information is passed. When family and friends have problems communicating, fights will occur and hurtful words will be exchanged. For example, I have lost friends because of lack of communication. Communication involves listening, caring and trustworthiness. Friends who do listen or can be trusted with information given demonstrate lack of communication. When co workers lack communication, the company will suffer and not be successful. Co workers lacking communication are unable to pass important information along to members of the company and corporation. Communication determines if a company will succeed or fail. New ideas are generated through communication. When it comes to personal relationships, I believe men have more difficulty communicating feelings. Women, unlike men, are natural communicators because they have stronger listening and comforting skills.How do you translate this paragraph into perfect, grammatical spanish?
This is my interpretation of your text into spanish, I say interpretation cause it麓s not a literal translation. But still it has the same meaning.
La cominucaci贸n es muy importante para el progreso de la humanidad. La comunicaci贸n se d谩 en muchas formas, como, escuchada, hablada, le铆da, escrita o dibujada. Los actores se comunican a trav茅s de parlamentos y movimientos para hacer llegar un mensaje por medio de una obra o una pelicula. La familia, amigos, relaciones de pareja y compa帽eros de trabajo se deben comunicar bien los unos con los otros as铆 que es importante y relevante que la informaci贸n se transmita. Cuando la familia y los amigos tienen problemas de comunicaci贸n, las peleas sucederan y palabras que lastiman ser谩n intercambiadas. Por ejemplo, Yo he perdido amigos por falta de comunicaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n involucra el escuchar, el preocuparse y la honradez. Los amigos que realmente escuchan y a los que se les puede tener confianza dandoles informaci贸n, a menudo demuestran falta de comunicaci贸n. Cuando entre compa帽eros de trabajo hay falta de comunicaci贸n, la empresa sufrir谩 y no tendr谩 exito. Los compa帽eros de trabajo que carecen de comunicaci贸n, no son capaces de pasar informaci贸n importante, adelante a otro miembros de la compa帽ia y de la corporaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n determina si una compa帽ia triunfar谩 o fracasar谩. Nuevas ideas son generadas a traves de la comunicaci贸n. Cuando se d谩 entre la relaciones personales, Yo creo que los hombres tienen mas problemas comunicando sus sentimientos. Las mujeres, a diferencia de los hombres, son comunicadoras mas naturales porque ellas tienen la habilidad de consolar y escuchan mejor.How do you translate this paragraph into perfect, grammatical spanish?
Comunicacion es muy importante en la prosperidad de la humanidad. La comunicacion se presenta en muchas formas tal como auditiva, oral(verbal), lectura, escritura y artistica. Un actor atrav茅z de la oracion y movimientos, manda su mensaje en una obra o en una pelicula. En la familia, entre amigos, parejas, y socios en el trabajo, tienen que comunicarse para el intercambio de informacion importante y relevante. Cuando en familia y entre amigos hay problemas de comunicacion, peleas ocurrir谩n, e insultos los habr谩. Por ejemplo, yo e perdido muchas amistades por falta de comunicacion. La comunicacion consiste en escuchar, la confianza y la importancia. Amistades que escuchan y se les confia con informacion demuestra la falta de comunicacion. Cuando en el trabajo hay falta de comunicacion, la compa帽ia sufre y no ser谩 prospera. Trabajadores con falta de comunicacion les ser谩 imposible compartir informacion importante con el resto de los miembros de una compa帽ia o corporacion. La comunicacion determina si una compa帽ia prospera o fracasa. Ideas nuevas son generadas atravez de la comunicacion. Cuando se trata de relaciones personales, creo que los hombres tienen mas dificultad en comunicar sus sentimientos. Las mujeres, no obstante, son mas abiertas al comunicarse porque tienen la capacidad de escuchar y confortar.
Hope this is what you were looking for, but anyone, please feel free to edits as you go.
La comunicaci贸n es muy importante a la prosperidad de humanidad. Comunicaci贸n entra muchas formas como escuchar, hablar, leer, escribir o dibujar. Communicate de actores por discurso y movimiento para transmitir un mensaje en un juego o pel铆cula. La familia, los amigos, socios de relaci贸n y colegas tienen que comunicar bien uno con el otro para que informaci贸n importante y pertinente sean pasados. Cu谩ndo familia y amigos tienen problemas con comunicacion, los combates ocurrir谩n y palabras da帽osas ser谩n cambiadas. Por ejemplo, yo he perdido a amigos a causa de falta de comunicaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n implica escuchar, cuidar y honradez. Los amigos que escuchan o pueden ser fiado de con informaci贸n dada demuestran falta de comunicaci贸n. Cu谩ndo co trabajadores faltan de comunicarse, la compa帽铆a sufrir谩 y no tendr谩 茅xito. Co trabajadores que faltan comunicaci贸n pueden no pasar informaci贸n importante adelante a miembros de la compa帽铆a y la corporaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n determina si una compa帽铆a tendr谩 茅xito o fallar谩. Nuevas ideas son engendradas por comunicaci贸n. Cu谩ndo viene a relaciones personales, yo creo que hombres tienen m谩s dificultad que comunica sentimientos. Las mujeres, a diferencia de hombres, son comunicadores naturales porque ellos tienen escuchar m谩s fuerte y habilidades consoladoras.
La comunicaci贸n es muy importante para la prosperidad de la humanidad. La Comunicaci贸n viene en diversas formas, tales como: la escucha, el habla, la lectura, la escritura, o el dibujo. Los actores se comunican a trav茅s del habla y el movimiento corporal para lograr transmitir un mensaje dentro de una pel铆cula u obra teatral. Familia, amigos, personajes conocidos y de trabajo, tienen que lograr una comuniaci贸n plena para as铆 lograr que la informaci贸n importante y relevante sea transmitida.
Cuando la familia y los amigos tienen problema comunicè°©ndose, los desacuerdos occuren, y las palabras hirientes son intercambiadas. Por ejemplo, yo he perdido amigos debido a la falta de comunicaciè´¸n.
(READ AGAIN THE NEXT SENTENCES, BECAUSE I WAS LIKE WTH? IF I TRUST SOMEONE MEANS THAT THERE'S A SUCCESFUL COMMUNICATION, NOT A LACK OF) (sorry for the caps haha)
La Comunicaci贸n envuelve el escuchar, el inter茅s y la confianza. Amigos que escuchan o pueden ser de confianza con la informaci贸n que se les otorga, demuestran una falta de comuncaci贸n.
Cuando los compa帽eros de trabajo demuestran una falta de comunicaci贸n, la compa帽铆a sufrir谩 y no ser谩 exitosa. Los Compa帽eros de trabajo carentes de comunicaci贸n, son incapaces de trasmitir informaci贸n importante a los dem谩s compa帽eros de la compa帽铆a y de la corporaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n determina si una compa帽铆a ser谩 exitosa o fracasar谩.
Las nuevas ideas son generadas a trav茅s de la comunicaci贸n. Cuando nos referimos a las relaciones personales, yo creo que los hombres tienen mas dificultad en comunicar sus sentimientos. Las Mujeres, diferente a los hombres, son comunicadoras naturales, debido a que tienen habilidades de escucha y compasi贸n mas desarrolladas.
I got tired haha.
HEY:
Friends who do listen or can be trusted with information given demonstrate lack of communication.
Amigos que escuchan o pueden ser de confianza con la informaciè´¸n que se les otorga, demuestran una falta de comuncaciè´¸n.
Friends who don't listen or can't be trusted with information given demonstrate lack of communication.
Amigos que no escuchan o no pueden ser de confianza con la informaciè´¸n que se les otorga, demuestran una falta de comunicaciè´¸n.
But then... those are not friends haha. :)!
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Communication is very important to the prosperity of humankind.Communication comes in many forms such as listening, talking, reading, writing or drawing. Actors commuincate through speech and movement to get a message across in a play or movie. Family, friends, relationship partners and co-workers have to communicate well with each other so that important and relevant information is passed. When family and friends have problems communicating, fights will occur and hurtful words will be exchanged. For example, I have lost friends because of lack of communication. Communication involves listening, caring and trustworthiness. Friends who do listen or can be trusted with information given demonstrate lack of communication. When co workers lack communication, the company will suffer and not be successful. Co workers lacking communication are unable to pass important information along to members of the company and corporation. Communication determines if a company will succeed or fail. New ideas are generated through communication. When it comes to personal relationships, I believe men have more difficulty communicating feelings. Women, unlike men, are natural communicators because they have stronger listening and comforting skills.How do you translate this paragraph into perfect, grammatical spanish?
This is my interpretation of your text into spanish, I say interpretation cause it麓s not a literal translation. But still it has the same meaning.
La cominucaci贸n es muy importante para el progreso de la humanidad. La comunicaci贸n se d谩 en muchas formas, como, escuchada, hablada, le铆da, escrita o dibujada. Los actores se comunican a trav茅s de parlamentos y movimientos para hacer llegar un mensaje por medio de una obra o una pelicula. La familia, amigos, relaciones de pareja y compa帽eros de trabajo se deben comunicar bien los unos con los otros as铆 que es importante y relevante que la informaci贸n se transmita. Cuando la familia y los amigos tienen problemas de comunicaci贸n, las peleas sucederan y palabras que lastiman ser谩n intercambiadas. Por ejemplo, Yo he perdido amigos por falta de comunicaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n involucra el escuchar, el preocuparse y la honradez. Los amigos que realmente escuchan y a los que se les puede tener confianza dandoles informaci贸n, a menudo demuestran falta de comunicaci贸n. Cuando entre compa帽eros de trabajo hay falta de comunicaci贸n, la empresa sufrir谩 y no tendr谩 exito. Los compa帽eros de trabajo que carecen de comunicaci贸n, no son capaces de pasar informaci贸n importante, adelante a otro miembros de la compa帽ia y de la corporaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n determina si una compa帽ia triunfar谩 o fracasar谩. Nuevas ideas son generadas a traves de la comunicaci贸n. Cuando se d谩 entre la relaciones personales, Yo creo que los hombres tienen mas problemas comunicando sus sentimientos. Las mujeres, a diferencia de los hombres, son comunicadoras mas naturales porque ellas tienen la habilidad de consolar y escuchan mejor.How do you translate this paragraph into perfect, grammatical spanish?
Comunicacion es muy importante en la prosperidad de la humanidad. La comunicacion se presenta en muchas formas tal como auditiva, oral(verbal), lectura, escritura y artistica. Un actor atrav茅z de la oracion y movimientos, manda su mensaje en una obra o en una pelicula. En la familia, entre amigos, parejas, y socios en el trabajo, tienen que comunicarse para el intercambio de informacion importante y relevante. Cuando en familia y entre amigos hay problemas de comunicacion, peleas ocurrir谩n, e insultos los habr谩. Por ejemplo, yo e perdido muchas amistades por falta de comunicacion. La comunicacion consiste en escuchar, la confianza y la importancia. Amistades que escuchan y se les confia con informacion demuestra la falta de comunicacion. Cuando en el trabajo hay falta de comunicacion, la compa帽ia sufre y no ser谩 prospera. Trabajadores con falta de comunicacion les ser谩 imposible compartir informacion importante con el resto de los miembros de una compa帽ia o corporacion. La comunicacion determina si una compa帽ia prospera o fracasa. Ideas nuevas son generadas atravez de la comunicacion. Cuando se trata de relaciones personales, creo que los hombres tienen mas dificultad en comunicar sus sentimientos. Las mujeres, no obstante, son mas abiertas al comunicarse porque tienen la capacidad de escuchar y confortar.
Hope this is what you were looking for, but anyone, please feel free to edits as you go.
La comunicaci贸n es muy importante a la prosperidad de humanidad. Comunicaci贸n entra muchas formas como escuchar, hablar, leer, escribir o dibujar. Communicate de actores por discurso y movimiento para transmitir un mensaje en un juego o pel铆cula. La familia, los amigos, socios de relaci贸n y colegas tienen que comunicar bien uno con el otro para que informaci贸n importante y pertinente sean pasados. Cu谩ndo familia y amigos tienen problemas con comunicacion, los combates ocurrir谩n y palabras da帽osas ser谩n cambiadas. Por ejemplo, yo he perdido a amigos a causa de falta de comunicaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n implica escuchar, cuidar y honradez. Los amigos que escuchan o pueden ser fiado de con informaci贸n dada demuestran falta de comunicaci贸n. Cu谩ndo co trabajadores faltan de comunicarse, la compa帽铆a sufrir谩 y no tendr谩 茅xito. Co trabajadores que faltan comunicaci贸n pueden no pasar informaci贸n importante adelante a miembros de la compa帽铆a y la corporaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n determina si una compa帽铆a tendr谩 茅xito o fallar谩. Nuevas ideas son engendradas por comunicaci贸n. Cu谩ndo viene a relaciones personales, yo creo que hombres tienen m谩s dificultad que comunica sentimientos. Las mujeres, a diferencia de hombres, son comunicadores naturales porque ellos tienen escuchar m谩s fuerte y habilidades consoladoras.
La comunicaci贸n es muy importante para la prosperidad de la humanidad. La Comunicaci贸n viene en diversas formas, tales como: la escucha, el habla, la lectura, la escritura, o el dibujo. Los actores se comunican a trav茅s del habla y el movimiento corporal para lograr transmitir un mensaje dentro de una pel铆cula u obra teatral. Familia, amigos, personajes conocidos y de trabajo, tienen que lograr una comuniaci贸n plena para as铆 lograr que la informaci贸n importante y relevante sea transmitida.
Cuando la familia y los amigos tienen problema comunicè°©ndose, los desacuerdos occuren, y las palabras hirientes son intercambiadas. Por ejemplo, yo he perdido amigos debido a la falta de comunicaciè´¸n.
(READ AGAIN THE NEXT SENTENCES, BECAUSE I WAS LIKE WTH? IF I TRUST SOMEONE MEANS THAT THERE'S A SUCCESFUL COMMUNICATION, NOT A LACK OF) (sorry for the caps haha)
La Comunicaci贸n envuelve el escuchar, el inter茅s y la confianza. Amigos que escuchan o pueden ser de confianza con la informaci贸n que se les otorga, demuestran una falta de comuncaci贸n.
Cuando los compa帽eros de trabajo demuestran una falta de comunicaci贸n, la compa帽铆a sufrir谩 y no ser谩 exitosa. Los Compa帽eros de trabajo carentes de comunicaci贸n, son incapaces de trasmitir informaci贸n importante a los dem谩s compa帽eros de la compa帽铆a y de la corporaci贸n. La comunicaci贸n determina si una compa帽铆a ser谩 exitosa o fracasar谩.
Las nuevas ideas son generadas a trav茅s de la comunicaci贸n. Cuando nos referimos a las relaciones personales, yo creo que los hombres tienen mas dificultad en comunicar sus sentimientos. Las Mujeres, diferente a los hombres, son comunicadoras naturales, debido a que tienen habilidades de escucha y compasi贸n mas desarrolladas.
I got tired haha.
HEY:
Friends who do listen or can be trusted with information given demonstrate lack of communication.
Amigos que escuchan o pueden ser de confianza con la informaciè´¸n que se les otorga, demuestran una falta de comuncaciè´¸n.
Friends who don't listen or can't be trusted with information given demonstrate lack of communication.
Amigos que no escuchan o no pueden ser de confianza con la informaciè´¸n que se les otorga, demuestran una falta de comunicaciè´¸n.
But then... those are not friends haha. :)!
good luck!!!!
My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?
Is this normal?
How do other women deal with men that refuse to show affection (apart from sex) and have a conversation. I have tried showing him what I like by specifying it and even to the point of writing it down for him. I dont want to tell him he has to tell me he loves me or else it feels fake.
Is it normal for me to stop talking to us? I dont think I've upset him in anyway. Otherwise he appears very very happy...who wouldn't be with a slave on tap.My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?
So why did you marry him in the first place?
How do other women deal with men that refuse to show affection (apart from sex) and have a conversation. I have tried showing him what I like by specifying it and even to the point of writing it down for him. I dont want to tell him he has to tell me he loves me or else it feels fake.
Is it normal for me to stop talking to us? I dont think I've upset him in anyway. Otherwise he appears very very happy...who wouldn't be with a slave on tap.My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?
So why did you marry him in the first place?
How do i communicate with diplomates to discuss free virgin soil to build Organic Spa within South Africa?
I want to build an Organic Spa that will benefit man kind and create a better quality of life for all nations . I want to communicate with tribal leaders to also learn some of the healing methods i need to locate a sponsor that would welcome me into there tribe and assist in the creation of such facility also creating a health spa village for the people to lesson the spread of world known diseases .How do i communicate with diplomates to discuss free virgin soil to build Organic Spa within South Africa?
How much do u know about spa?Your dream is great,but before u communicate with diplomates you should prepare for their questions about spa.PubSpa.com is network of spa lovers! you can communicate with spa enthusiasts around the world via online chat, forum and IM and promote yourself, your company and your services. It's FREE to be a member!
How much do u know about spa?Your dream is great,but before u communicate with diplomates you should prepare for their questions about spa.PubSpa.com is network of spa lovers! you can communicate with spa enthusiasts around the world via online chat, forum and IM and promote yourself, your company and your services. It's FREE to be a member!
How did Spaniards and Indians communicate when neither group could speak the otjer's language?
In 1528, when the Spaniards landed in Florida, they were unable to communicate with the Indians they encountered. This was the first time the Indians had ever seen a white man and the first time the Spaniards had encountered these Indians. No one knew how to translate the other's language and sign language may not have worked.How did Spaniards and Indians communicate when neither group could speak the otjer's language?
maybe with gun language...How did Spaniards and Indians communicate when neither group could speak the otjer's language?
The conquistadors usually taught Spanish to captive Indians and would later use them as interpreters. Since Spanish is actually simpler than any of the Indian languages were, it was not too difficult for the Indians to acquire a basic grasp of Spanish in a short period of time.
Also, it is still possible to communicate with people who speak a different language to some extent through whistles, gestures and hand signals. Some of these are universally understood by humans everywhere in the world.
For example, I once saw a Japanese man who spoke little English look in astonishment at the way a ragged street person in Seattle was acting. I circled my finger around my ear to tell him that ';I think this guy is crazy.'; The Japanese man still understood what I was trying to tell him and nodded his head in approval.
well... here in mexico when the spaniards landed, they didn't care how to communicate with our people. they just wanted to conquer the land... so they just hit us with everything. that's how they communicate us that we were f****d up...
i dont think they wanted to communicate with you neither
Some people have a natural talent for learning languages and pick them up fast.
maybe with gun language...How did Spaniards and Indians communicate when neither group could speak the otjer's language?
The conquistadors usually taught Spanish to captive Indians and would later use them as interpreters. Since Spanish is actually simpler than any of the Indian languages were, it was not too difficult for the Indians to acquire a basic grasp of Spanish in a short period of time.
Also, it is still possible to communicate with people who speak a different language to some extent through whistles, gestures and hand signals. Some of these are universally understood by humans everywhere in the world.
For example, I once saw a Japanese man who spoke little English look in astonishment at the way a ragged street person in Seattle was acting. I circled my finger around my ear to tell him that ';I think this guy is crazy.'; The Japanese man still understood what I was trying to tell him and nodded his head in approval.
well... here in mexico when the spaniards landed, they didn't care how to communicate with our people. they just wanted to conquer the land... so they just hit us with everything. that's how they communicate us that we were f****d up...
i dont think they wanted to communicate with you neither
Some people have a natural talent for learning languages and pick them up fast.
Why are men so insensitive? But they expect us to handle things?
If I want to tell my husband something he shouldn't get all upset?
He tells the kids and I things all the time?
What if every time he told us things we got mad?
I just don't get it ,men stick together no matter what?
I asked a question earlier and some men responded like he would?
Why? Because they are men?
Then how can we women communicate with our husbands if they react like this?
What choices do we women have? If we have to walk on egg shells?
If something is wrong no matter what it is we should be able to talk about it?
Any more opinions?Why are men so insensitive? But they expect us to handle things?
This isn't really about your husband. This is about your boundaries. Are you afraid of him? Physically or emotionally. What do you think he's going to do if you set personal boundaries for yourself? Do you think he'll leave? Do you think you won't have a husband? Do you think you won't have the financial support that you do now?
Not ALL men stick together on these kind of things. I had to look and look to find one who didn't because I grew up in an abusive home and had a 20 year marriage with an abusive man. Once I decided that I was looking for a best friend, not a husband, I was able to find that man. He's not perfect. We have still had some major bumps in the road, but I am NOT afraid to yell at him, tell him my thoughts, etc.
This is abusive behavior, verbal and psychological abuse when you are afraid to talk.
*Why are men so insensitive? But they expect us to handle things?
';Women who are emotionally abused describe ';mind-games'; or ';crazy-making'; tactics, where the abuser may contradict a woman, fabricate stories, deny or minimize his actions, or act inconsistently:';
http://www.womanabusepreventio鈥?/a>
If you want to tell your husband something, tell him. His reaction is his choice - don't own it.
When he tells you/the kids something your reaction is your choice. It really is that simple. You are making it complicated by expecting he should react a certain way, he shouldn't react as he does, etc. and interpreting his reaction as insensitive. You are also assuming he expects you to handle things, etc. These are your choices - own them.
If they're not working for you, make different choices and you will have a different result.
sorry you lost me. try rewording it and dont talk hypothetically.
Ahhh........I think your question mark key is stuck or something.
sounds like u are young and confused
First off, I hope you don't bombard your husband with large numbers of questions all at once, like you did here lol. Maybe you are with the wrong man - a man who just doesn't know how to respect others (women.. you), doesn't have manners (less than the average man anyway), has anger issues... maybe all of the above.. If you feel like you are always walking on ';egg shells'; with him, I don't think that's normal. Even though I think it IS normal to feel like women are superior and men are just dumb and unable to process information (haha), I mean that is just part of dealing with the opposite sex sometimes. But if he makes you feel BAD on a regular basis, it sounds like it is more than just a gender difference...
He tells the kids and I things all the time?
What if every time he told us things we got mad?
I just don't get it ,men stick together no matter what?
I asked a question earlier and some men responded like he would?
Why? Because they are men?
Then how can we women communicate with our husbands if they react like this?
What choices do we women have? If we have to walk on egg shells?
If something is wrong no matter what it is we should be able to talk about it?
Any more opinions?Why are men so insensitive? But they expect us to handle things?
This isn't really about your husband. This is about your boundaries. Are you afraid of him? Physically or emotionally. What do you think he's going to do if you set personal boundaries for yourself? Do you think he'll leave? Do you think you won't have a husband? Do you think you won't have the financial support that you do now?
Not ALL men stick together on these kind of things. I had to look and look to find one who didn't because I grew up in an abusive home and had a 20 year marriage with an abusive man. Once I decided that I was looking for a best friend, not a husband, I was able to find that man. He's not perfect. We have still had some major bumps in the road, but I am NOT afraid to yell at him, tell him my thoughts, etc.
This is abusive behavior, verbal and psychological abuse when you are afraid to talk.
*Why are men so insensitive? But they expect us to handle things?
';Women who are emotionally abused describe ';mind-games'; or ';crazy-making'; tactics, where the abuser may contradict a woman, fabricate stories, deny or minimize his actions, or act inconsistently:';
http://www.womanabusepreventio鈥?/a>
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If you want to tell your husband something, tell him. His reaction is his choice - don't own it.
When he tells you/the kids something your reaction is your choice. It really is that simple. You are making it complicated by expecting he should react a certain way, he shouldn't react as he does, etc. and interpreting his reaction as insensitive. You are also assuming he expects you to handle things, etc. These are your choices - own them.
If they're not working for you, make different choices and you will have a different result.
sorry you lost me. try rewording it and dont talk hypothetically.
Ahhh........I think your question mark key is stuck or something.
sounds like u are young and confused
First off, I hope you don't bombard your husband with large numbers of questions all at once, like you did here lol. Maybe you are with the wrong man - a man who just doesn't know how to respect others (women.. you), doesn't have manners (less than the average man anyway), has anger issues... maybe all of the above.. If you feel like you are always walking on ';egg shells'; with him, I don't think that's normal. Even though I think it IS normal to feel like women are superior and men are just dumb and unable to process information (haha), I mean that is just part of dealing with the opposite sex sometimes. But if he makes you feel BAD on a regular basis, it sounds like it is more than just a gender difference...
How can I communicate with a non-verbal person who has suffered a tbi and cannot move ( to point or nod)?
I work for a 23 year old DD man. He suffered a SCA at age 14 which left him unable to speak or move. He can still laugh and is not brain dead, but cannot answer yes or no. Is there some device that would enable me to communicate with him and at least get a yes or no answer out of him?How can I communicate with a non-verbal person who has suffered a tbi and cannot move ( to point or nod)?
try to check on google...good luck
try to check on google...good luck
Men!!! how best not to bruise the male ego?
it has come to my attention that sometimes I say things in passing that can be considered sarcastic and bruise the male ego. I love men in general and want to communicate better with them. All your comments are appreciated - hopefully they are constructiveMen!!! how best not to bruise the male ego?
Bah! We men aren't as frail as you may think. While a comment or two may bruise our egos, this bruise is generally only a temporary thing. We are far more likely to shrug it off and move on then we are to wallow in depression and despair from a couple of off hand remarks.
In the off chance that you may have said something that cut deep like a butcher's knife on steroids, something so heartless that it would make us re-evaluate you as a person, we'd probably just dump you and find another gal who was not quite so malicious.
BTW, I find a sarcastic woman to be sexy! As long as her sarcasm is rooted in humor and not spite.Men!!! how best not to bruise the male ego?
In general, I would say don't mock the things we hold sacred. For many, that's the world of cars, sports and fast things. For others, that's more creative.
you love men...nuff said get out
lay off sarcasm regarding:
our penis,
our quickness (or limpness)
our body odor,
our car,
our Mom,
don't talk about our mothers - especially black males.
and best way NOT to bruise male ego - penis size.
and probably the car they're driving in an insulting way.
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metrosexual males:
the way they dress, their hair,
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follow-up: and never, never call a black man a punk or f.ag even if they are homosexual.cat skin problem tvs
Bah! We men aren't as frail as you may think. While a comment or two may bruise our egos, this bruise is generally only a temporary thing. We are far more likely to shrug it off and move on then we are to wallow in depression and despair from a couple of off hand remarks.
In the off chance that you may have said something that cut deep like a butcher's knife on steroids, something so heartless that it would make us re-evaluate you as a person, we'd probably just dump you and find another gal who was not quite so malicious.
BTW, I find a sarcastic woman to be sexy! As long as her sarcasm is rooted in humor and not spite.Men!!! how best not to bruise the male ego?
In general, I would say don't mock the things we hold sacred. For many, that's the world of cars, sports and fast things. For others, that's more creative.
you love men...nuff said get out
lay off sarcasm regarding:
our penis,
our quickness (or limpness)
our body odor,
our car,
our Mom,
don't talk about our mothers - especially black males.
and best way NOT to bruise male ego - penis size.
and probably the car they're driving in an insulting way.
==============================
metrosexual males:
the way they dress, their hair,
---------------
follow-up: and never, never call a black man a punk or f.ag even if they are homosexual.
How to communicate with mental ill in helpful and calming manner?
case-
one men is upset,angry and frightened and starts to swear at you bcoz he missed his bus and was late to his appointment. you know he suffers from a mental illness.How to communicate with mental ill in helpful and calming manner?
First, you need to remain calm yourself. If he sees that you're upset, it will only make him panic more. Then, tell him in a calm voice...';It's okay. Here's what we'll do. We'll call the place where you have your appointment and let them know you're going to be a little late. If they say that's okay, we'll catch the next bus. If they can't see you today, we'll ask them to reschedule it and we'll make it just fine the next time.';
If this person is just a fellow bus rider...you say ';It will be okay. I've been late for appointments too, and if you call the place where you have your appointment, I'm sure they can help you.'; Just reassure him that it happens to everyone and it can be fixed.How to communicate with mental ill in helpful and calming manner?
listen
talk to him about the problem...
tell him about how to solve him problem..(like catch an auto or a train...)
just be friendly and talk to him in a cool manner
tat would make him feel better
one men is upset,angry and frightened and starts to swear at you bcoz he missed his bus and was late to his appointment. you know he suffers from a mental illness.How to communicate with mental ill in helpful and calming manner?
First, you need to remain calm yourself. If he sees that you're upset, it will only make him panic more. Then, tell him in a calm voice...';It's okay. Here's what we'll do. We'll call the place where you have your appointment and let them know you're going to be a little late. If they say that's okay, we'll catch the next bus. If they can't see you today, we'll ask them to reschedule it and we'll make it just fine the next time.';
If this person is just a fellow bus rider...you say ';It will be okay. I've been late for appointments too, and if you call the place where you have your appointment, I'm sure they can help you.'; Just reassure him that it happens to everyone and it can be fixed.How to communicate with mental ill in helpful and calming manner?
listen
talk to him about the problem...
tell him about how to solve him problem..(like catch an auto or a train...)
just be friendly and talk to him in a cool manner
tat would make him feel better
Afraid of people? Is there something wrong with you?
People said on Psychology section, that they are afraid of being around people.
But I believe they have every right to be afraid of people.
Because...
1. People gossip.
2. Some People are mean.
3. Some people would do deception things.
4. Some people play with your head.
5. You get unwanted situation that people keep giving you.
I gossip alittle bit. I listened to gossip, but I don't take them seriously.
And people were raise that way, to be mean.
People do deception things, doing something behind your back.
And people like to play mind game.
I refused to date a blind guy in Florida, because I didn't want
to take care of him... I can't even take care of myself, so why
I want to burden myself even more. I can't even hear right or
talk right, and my grammar is messed up, so how I suppose
to communicate with a blind man?
And blind men heard what I did... and they keep
coming to me and trying to prove that they can take themselves
and I should date them.
But they won't accept my decision, I just don't want to date a blind man... I don't want them to touch me... after they go around
and touching stuff so they can walk around... and I don't know
where their hands been.
So people keep trying to put me in situation where I don't want
to be in... very uncomfortable to me.
And I wish they respect me.
So people who are afraid of people... I know exactly how you feel...
but I think you just have to be strong and not let that bother you so much... and just tell people how you truly feel.
Right?Afraid of people? Is there something wrong with you?
thanx. i needed 2 hear that. ur so sweet!Afraid of people? Is there something wrong with you?
You can only be yourself. If you show that true personality in public, then you aren't lying to you or others! If they don't like it, then look for others that will!
correcto. even though u kept goin on and on.
unfortunately thats how people r and u have to deal with it without being afraid, u have to learn to be aware of who u r talking to , dont give a chance to any one to play mind game with u or put u in a situation u do not prefer, someone asked this question yesterday which is 'is life unfair?' and my answer was 'no life is fair but its we that make it unfair'.
there is nothing to be afraid of, just believe that ur wonderful and face society by acting normal being urself.
How about being tri-lingual in languages? Which three languages are the most useful??
English, Spanish and French are the most useful in the americas because of NAFTA.
Mexicans in Mexico have to learn english to work in the resort areas of Cancun, Puerto Vallarta and to communicate with american business men that come to Mexico to do business:
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/nationworld/2003664901_mexschool130.html?syndication=rss
But I would like to see French being taught also.
That is why all the labels of products are in three languages, English, Spanish and French.
From NAFTAHow about being tri-lingual in languages? Which three languages are the most useful??
I believe that the 3 most useful languages are English, Mandarin Chinese, and Arabic. I guess that's a biased judgement because I'm middle eastern, but hey if someone says English, Spanish, and French that represents a certain bias also. I chose those three languages because they all represent a totally different written alphabet. And if you knew those three you could pretty much get around the world all right I think. Of course, the more languages you know the better, so if you want to learn English, German, Arabic, Persian, Japanese, Spanish, Ebonics, Morse Code, Sign Language, and Swahili then more power to you and I salute you for being an erudite and amazing individual.How about being tri-lingual in languages? Which three languages are the most useful??
I think English, Spanish and Chinese are the important ones. Also Hindi and Arabic.
english, spanish, and french in my opinion
I would probably say English (500 million speakers), French (450 million speakers) and Indonesian (300 million speakers)
but you could also have Mandarin ( more than 1000 million) or ( more than 1 billion speakers)
Mexicans in Mexico have to learn english to work in the resort areas of Cancun, Puerto Vallarta and to communicate with american business men that come to Mexico to do business:
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/nationworld/2003664901_mexschool130.html?syndication=rss
But I would like to see French being taught also.
That is why all the labels of products are in three languages, English, Spanish and French.
From NAFTAHow about being tri-lingual in languages? Which three languages are the most useful??
I believe that the 3 most useful languages are English, Mandarin Chinese, and Arabic. I guess that's a biased judgement because I'm middle eastern, but hey if someone says English, Spanish, and French that represents a certain bias also. I chose those three languages because they all represent a totally different written alphabet. And if you knew those three you could pretty much get around the world all right I think. Of course, the more languages you know the better, so if you want to learn English, German, Arabic, Persian, Japanese, Spanish, Ebonics, Morse Code, Sign Language, and Swahili then more power to you and I salute you for being an erudite and amazing individual.How about being tri-lingual in languages? Which three languages are the most useful??
I think English, Spanish and Chinese are the important ones. Also Hindi and Arabic.
english, spanish, and french in my opinion
I would probably say English (500 million speakers), French (450 million speakers) and Indonesian (300 million speakers)
but you could also have Mandarin ( more than 1000 million) or ( more than 1 billion speakers)
Long distance, text message relationship?
've never done this before....but lately need some advice and wanted to see who out there is having/has had the same experience as me
Recently, I have started communicating with a man from college, we knew each other but were involved in different sets of groups...right now, he lives many states over but will return to where I am on holidays/vacations...our communication is through text messages and they are flirty, sexy and yet deep at moments
We won't see each other for another month and my question is, has anyone begun a relationship in this way and what was the result? How do I continue the appeal and attraction for another month before we can meet face to face and I can figure if there is a something actually there (which I really believe there is)
Thank you for all your advice.Long distance, text message relationship?
i am currently in one and we are so in love. we are across continents and i will see im in december. we have been doing this for 2.5 years. its terrible at times but we talk about it and of course reassure each other that this is temporary. and in our hearts it is. the trick is to be in touch daily whether its texting, skype or messaging. its a must to know what the other is feeling and thinking.
you can do this if you trust him and if he respects you. goodluck! make sure that you guys speak about your issues in this long distance relationship.Long distance, text message relationship?
long distance relationships are worth the try. i am in one at this moment. me and my guy have been in this relationship for soon to be four monthes and it is going great. we met at a christian camp over the summer and he lives in Texas and i live in Louisiana. what keeps us going is communication and passion toward each other. so just keep up with the talk and be patient till the next time you see him :D Good Luck!
Been in it over a year now:)
If you like him, and I mean if you really like him.. It's not easy but it may be worth it. I've been in a long distance relationship over a year now things are not easy, specially when you're both in college. But all in all when I do get the chance to be with him everything I gave up was totally worth it. Just do what you want and makes you happy you can't go wrong there:))
Helpp me out pleease:))
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yes sounds good i agree with number 1
i'm in the same situation. there's nothing wrong with a long distance relationship so long as there's a time frame when you two will be back together permanently. I'm in the army, stationed in georgia, and my g/f is in miami. we've been together for nine months now, and i've just got a couple days left before i get out of the army. :) a long distance relationship requires A LOT of phone time, so make sure you guys have free mobile to mobile calling! You practically have to live your relationship over the phone. Make sure you both are able to give each other that extra time during the day for your phone calls. also, there has to be a measure of trust in the relationship. you have to be certain that he's not out doing his thing, while he has to make sure that you're not doing anything either. also, if you want to keep the appeal and attraction between you, engage in phone sex. it's perfectly healthy and there's nothing wrong with it. believe me, it works wonders! You have to be there for each other in good times and in bad. you've gotta know that you can be able to call him if you're having a bad day, and vice a versa. bottom line, be there for each other as if he was right next to you :)
umm send him some pics to match those messages.... ;)
Recently, I have started communicating with a man from college, we knew each other but were involved in different sets of groups...right now, he lives many states over but will return to where I am on holidays/vacations...our communication is through text messages and they are flirty, sexy and yet deep at moments
We won't see each other for another month and my question is, has anyone begun a relationship in this way and what was the result? How do I continue the appeal and attraction for another month before we can meet face to face and I can figure if there is a something actually there (which I really believe there is)
Thank you for all your advice.Long distance, text message relationship?
i am currently in one and we are so in love. we are across continents and i will see im in december. we have been doing this for 2.5 years. its terrible at times but we talk about it and of course reassure each other that this is temporary. and in our hearts it is. the trick is to be in touch daily whether its texting, skype or messaging. its a must to know what the other is feeling and thinking.
you can do this if you trust him and if he respects you. goodluck! make sure that you guys speak about your issues in this long distance relationship.Long distance, text message relationship?
long distance relationships are worth the try. i am in one at this moment. me and my guy have been in this relationship for soon to be four monthes and it is going great. we met at a christian camp over the summer and he lives in Texas and i live in Louisiana. what keeps us going is communication and passion toward each other. so just keep up with the talk and be patient till the next time you see him :D Good Luck!
Been in it over a year now:)
If you like him, and I mean if you really like him.. It's not easy but it may be worth it. I've been in a long distance relationship over a year now things are not easy, specially when you're both in college. But all in all when I do get the chance to be with him everything I gave up was totally worth it. Just do what you want and makes you happy you can't go wrong there:))
Helpp me out pleease:))
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yes sounds good i agree with number 1
i'm in the same situation. there's nothing wrong with a long distance relationship so long as there's a time frame when you two will be back together permanently. I'm in the army, stationed in georgia, and my g/f is in miami. we've been together for nine months now, and i've just got a couple days left before i get out of the army. :) a long distance relationship requires A LOT of phone time, so make sure you guys have free mobile to mobile calling! You practically have to live your relationship over the phone. Make sure you both are able to give each other that extra time during the day for your phone calls. also, there has to be a measure of trust in the relationship. you have to be certain that he's not out doing his thing, while he has to make sure that you're not doing anything either. also, if you want to keep the appeal and attraction between you, engage in phone sex. it's perfectly healthy and there's nothing wrong with it. believe me, it works wonders! You have to be there for each other in good times and in bad. you've gotta know that you can be able to call him if you're having a bad day, and vice a versa. bottom line, be there for each other as if he was right next to you :)
umm send him some pics to match those messages.... ;)
How do I ask him if he's ';ok'; without seeming like a stalker?
I was communicating with a man from abroad that I met on craigslist. When he came to my city we had plans to meet, but we did not because I was a little scared and had cold feet.
He understood, and agreed that he would meet me when he comes back to my city in the fall.
He e-mail me before he caught his flight and said that he hops to meet me in the fall.
I messaged him back telling him that he makes it back to his country safely, and I regret not meeting, and hope to really meet this time, but I have not heard from him yet. I am worried that he did not make it to his destination safely, because it has been four days since I e-mailed him, and he doesn't even takle twenty four hours to get back to me.
Should I send him a message to ask him if he is ok? If so, how should I do it.
Or should I not message him at all and just forget about it.
Thank you all for you responses in advance. =)How do I ask him if he's ';ok'; without seeming like a stalker?
It wont look stlakerish if you guys were already freinds
He understood, and agreed that he would meet me when he comes back to my city in the fall.
He e-mail me before he caught his flight and said that he hops to meet me in the fall.
I messaged him back telling him that he makes it back to his country safely, and I regret not meeting, and hope to really meet this time, but I have not heard from him yet. I am worried that he did not make it to his destination safely, because it has been four days since I e-mailed him, and he doesn't even takle twenty four hours to get back to me.
Should I send him a message to ask him if he is ok? If so, how should I do it.
Or should I not message him at all and just forget about it.
Thank you all for you responses in advance. =)How do I ask him if he's ';ok'; without seeming like a stalker?
It wont look stlakerish if you guys were already freinds
What kinds of relationship oriented movies are there?
Ok, so I know that just about every movie involves some type of relationship, but I have to write a paper about a relationship in a movie. Basically we have to find the example in the movie and discuss that, situations in real life (good sources), and our own experiences with it. Questions that were given examples were things like ';How does peer pressure affect a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? How do authoritarian parents affect the relationships their children have with them or will have with them? How does race affect relationships? Do men and women communicate differently? These questions just aren't working for me...or at least I can't find a movie that trips my trigger enough to want to use it. So I am looking for some recommendations from you guys. Ideas for questions and movie examples. Thanks all ahead of time!What kinds of relationship oriented movies are there?
here are some good movies to look at that deal with your questions:
How does peer pressure affect a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? Footloose, Grease, Breakfast Club
How do authoritarian parents affect the relationships their children have with them or will have with them? Dirty Dancing, Meeting the Fockers (sorry, can't think of another movie at the moment)
How does race affect relationships? Jungle Fever, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, Saving the Last Dance
Do men and women communicate differently? When Harry met Sally, Fever Pitch, I now pronounce you (I think it's called; it's where Robin Williams is a preist and Mandy Moore is the bride-to-be).
Hope this helps you strike up some ideas!What kinds of relationship oriented movies are there?
love actualy -
relationships are not just bf/gf, they can be love between u and your friends, family, parents..cat skin problem tvs
here are some good movies to look at that deal with your questions:
How does peer pressure affect a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? Footloose, Grease, Breakfast Club
How do authoritarian parents affect the relationships their children have with them or will have with them? Dirty Dancing, Meeting the Fockers (sorry, can't think of another movie at the moment)
How does race affect relationships? Jungle Fever, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, Saving the Last Dance
Do men and women communicate differently? When Harry met Sally, Fever Pitch, I now pronounce you (I think it's called; it's where Robin Williams is a preist and Mandy Moore is the bride-to-be).
Hope this helps you strike up some ideas!What kinds of relationship oriented movies are there?
love actualy -
relationships are not just bf/gf, they can be love between u and your friends, family, parents..
How do i communicate this type of haircut to the salon lady?
http://www.menshairstyles.net/v/asian-ma
That's the haircut I want. What should I tell the lady to do, without actually bringing in the picture? Basically I like the shorter sides look with a longer top.
thanks to all who reply~!How do I communicate this type of haircut to the salon lady?
A great start would be to show her the picture. Your stylist will be able to tell you if your face, hair type, thickness, etc. all lend themselves to that kind of style. They may agree that this will look good on you, or they may suggest something that will be just as hip but fit your situation better. There are a lot of factors that go into deciding the best hair style for a person. For the best advice, pay a little more money at a really good salon and you're more likely to get the best results. Doesn't mean that someone at a less expensive, family oriented chain won't be able to do a good job, but you have to evaluate the talent involved, the money you're willing to spend, and the results you want. Just don't get a Faux Hawk. Please ;)How do I communicate this type of haircut to the salon lady?
bring in the picture. Thts the only way she knows 100% of the haircut you want.
yup
but take the pic with you just to be sure cuz she might still not understand and u might come out with no hair
That's the haircut I want. What should I tell the lady to do, without actually bringing in the picture? Basically I like the shorter sides look with a longer top.
thanks to all who reply~!How do I communicate this type of haircut to the salon lady?
A great start would be to show her the picture. Your stylist will be able to tell you if your face, hair type, thickness, etc. all lend themselves to that kind of style. They may agree that this will look good on you, or they may suggest something that will be just as hip but fit your situation better. There are a lot of factors that go into deciding the best hair style for a person. For the best advice, pay a little more money at a really good salon and you're more likely to get the best results. Doesn't mean that someone at a less expensive, family oriented chain won't be able to do a good job, but you have to evaluate the talent involved, the money you're willing to spend, and the results you want. Just don't get a Faux Hawk. Please ;)How do I communicate this type of haircut to the salon lady?
bring in the picture. Thts the only way she knows 100% of the haircut you want.
yup
but take the pic with you just to be sure cuz she might still not understand and u might come out with no hair
Sociolinguistic sub-culture?
My anthropology proff. decided to add another exam onto our curriculum after i have already turned in my book. so if anyone could help me out with these questions, i'd appreciate it. obviously the page numbers don't apply, but please use your previous knowledge and help me out?
1. What is a ';sociolinguistic sub-culture';?
2. Describe how female and male sociolinguistic sub-cultures are different and the ways that men and women might misread the cues they receive from the opposite sex when having conversations, addressing the following things:
a. How do female and male communication styles/forms differ; what things do men and women do differently in conversations with each other?
b. What is the role of peer-group learning among children for the way men and women communicate? What is it in girls' play that contributes to their sociolinguistic sub-culture, and what is it in boys' play that contributes to their sociolinguistic sub-Sociolinguistic sub-culture?
Sociolinguistic sub-culture? Christ... uhh... let me see. Socio... social... linguistic... language, speaking and what not, sub-culture... not mainstream culture. So... maybe different dialects or ways of speaking aside from the mainstream general method? Girls speak one way, Boys speak another way... and so forth. Keep in mind I understand I could be totally off here.
1. What is a ';sociolinguistic sub-culture';?
2. Describe how female and male sociolinguistic sub-cultures are different and the ways that men and women might misread the cues they receive from the opposite sex when having conversations, addressing the following things:
a. How do female and male communication styles/forms differ; what things do men and women do differently in conversations with each other?
b. What is the role of peer-group learning among children for the way men and women communicate? What is it in girls' play that contributes to their sociolinguistic sub-culture, and what is it in boys' play that contributes to their sociolinguistic sub-Sociolinguistic sub-culture?
Sociolinguistic sub-culture? Christ... uhh... let me see. Socio... social... linguistic... language, speaking and what not, sub-culture... not mainstream culture. So... maybe different dialects or ways of speaking aside from the mainstream general method? Girls speak one way, Boys speak another way... and so forth. Keep in mind I understand I could be totally off here.
Why won't he answer my question?!?
I have been dating a man I met in May for the past 4 weeks. This past week his level of communciation with me has been very low. He used to call or text me every day, sometimes a couple times a day. We had a great date last week, but I have not seen him for 6 days. This past weekend (2 days ago) I asked to have a date with me tonight (Mon). He told me that he ';would love to';, but had to find out about tentative plans he may already have with a guy friend of his. He wasn't sure if the plans were going to be for tonight or tomorrow night. He said he would let me know. This morning I texted him and asked him if he knew if he was going to be available or not. 3 hours later after not hearing from him, I sent him a chat IM and asked if he got my text. He said no and that his phone was not working properly (this has been a problem in the past). I resent the text and he immediately responded by saying, ';I am not avail tonight. Sorry';.
Because I have had so many men disappear on me or blow me off just when things seem so great between us I assumed that his reply was his way of telling me that he is losing interest. Remember, he has really lacked communication this past week.
A few minutes later I responded by asking him if I would not be hearing from him anymore. He responded by saying, ';I didn't know we had plans set in stone for tonight';. Well, that does NOT answer my question.
I then reminded him of our conversation on Saturday about tentative plans for tonight and how he was supposed to get in touch with me. He responded by saying that he's had a one track mind work lately and not getting any sleep. Again, this does NOT answer my question.
I then tried calling him because I hate texting, but he didn't answer the phone. He then texted me and said that he was on the phone on a work related call and that he was getting ready to make another call.
I replied and again asked him if he was no longer intersted and that I would still like to date him. I also apologized for jumping to conclusions, but I am so used to be cut off without explanation by men that I could not help but judge the situation harshly. I also asked him to call me when he got a free minute from work. He did not call.
I later emailed him explaining myself again and asked him for his thoughts on the situation. All I want is an honest answer. Why is this so hard? Why won't he answer me? It's just words on a computer. We are not face to face. There is no confrontation. Just type the damn words and hit send. During our texting I asked him a simple question that required a simple one-word reply, ';yes';, or ';no';. I don't understand what the big deal is!
So, why is it that some men refuse to communicate? Especially with something so simple as this? At least I see it as simple. Either you want to date someone or you don't.
P.S. Just a little more detail...We have not had sex yet. He has had the opportunity (we've fooled around), but has been very respectful and not tried to take it to that level. So, it's not as if he's lost interest after getting the sex first. I'm guessing he wanted to take things slowly.Why won't he answer my question?!?
Hon, guys hate insecure women. You sound like a totally over the top insecure person who is just hanging around waiting on this guy. Look, if you don't hear from the guy, just let it go - get busy with your friends or whatever and don't be hanging around waiting on him and then all this calling and texting etc. etc. how annoying is what I would think if I was the guy. It has only been 4 weeks of dating and you are acting desperate and making demands on him - it's ridiculous. If this is how you acted with other guys then yep I guess they cut and ran.Why won't he answer my question?!?
women are always the communicators in a relationship
Your right, he should text back or talk to you about plans...but sometimes, you need to step back, give a little breathing room. MAKE him want to go out with you. You obviously like him a lot, but if you keep bothering him, it won't help him. Just tell him it would be nice if you communicated and talked once an a while, and that it would be fun to do something. Don't be to desperate
P.S. to your P.S..... Yeah, i can't say he's just lost intrest, but i think that shows that he wants to get to know you better, and that he doesn't want it to totally be over right after.
yea really...........i gave up after the first sentence
He's just not that into you. You need other things to do and other people to do them with. Even when people are married they are not ALL things to each other. In what I could manage to read and absorb, you seem to put allot of pressure on this man in your life to be there for you and to be available for you and to listen exactly to everything you might say and to then hold him accountable. How fun is that for him to be there for you? Ease up and get a broad spectrum of friends and possibly leave the one on one man thing alone until you can deal with the hanging out with friends part.
leave him alone
Ur bf is an idiot. Don't cry over him. Hes clearly not a good person and is avoiding u. Maybe there is something behind it. Maybe hes doing some important work.
maybe he feels like your moving to fast slow down maybe he is still dating other women and feel like your trying to jump into a relationship with him
My daughter went through something similar and I told her to stop reaching out to him. In my opinion he is not that interested and really lame for not giving you a direct answer. You are entitled to better than that. Please stop calling him and move on because he's not worth the effort. Besides really how much more can you do? Let it go so you can move on to better people. Keep an open and positive attitude and you will find someone much much better.
WOW;
i'm really sorry,and this must be really hard for you.
i've been through it, alot.
and it drove me crazy,
this could either go two ways, he will start communicating more with you, or you'll start letting all of this get to you, and it'll ruin you.
choose wisely, follow your heart.
With this economy, he doesn't want to do anything that will jeopardize his job, so you calling during work hours may be a little pushy. Maybe you came on to fast for him, or maybe there's an ethical conflict (are you working for him, or with a customer of his business?) Maybe too pushy is scaring him away, and it kind of sounds like you're nagging him - that's always a turn-off.
I agree this is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too young
Just calm down, give him some time..
He's answered your question so bluntly you're obviousy in the mood to reject what you think it means.
You are pushy girl! Waiting 3 hours between an IM and a text? Do you not both work and have other people in your lives to get to. So he made an obligation 'tonight' that was more firm than your tentative obligation for tonight.
If all of your 'communications' happened in the course of one day, I feel sorry for the poor guy. You've already asked him for his thoughts and he hasn't given them. One a guy is confronted (and YES, it is still confronting even though its in words) and backed into a corner he will either lie or come clean. But he hasn't done either; so he's ACTUALLY busy.
Just take a chill pill and wait for him to contact you. Be cool, be calm and just ask if something's come up this past week. Have you ever thought that maybe other people in his life want time with him, not just you? That COULD be the problem. It COULD also be an increase of work, a big deal going down. There's a ton of things it could be, so let him sort through it and wait for him to get whatever it is back under his belt. Only then will he be okay with talking to you about it, and then being inquisitive is fine. Bringing out the Spanish Inquisition is NEVER okay.
Blah blah blah blah blah.The answer is five.
Hes not interested. Move on and stop asking questions. Dont contact him anymore.
His responses were aimed at trying to understand why you were acting the way you were so that he would know how to best address your concerns, and to try to avoid any further misunderstandings. Because you were projecting your past problems onto your relationship with him and making assumptions accordingly, then you were creating a problem which did not yet exist. Whether you believe it or not you were being confrontational and unreasonable, and your actions sabotaged your relationship with him. And maybe you subconsciously meant to do this. And maybe you've done this sort of thing in the past, too.
He knows what your feeling. You made it known what you wanted...a simple answer, you didn't get one. I would not text or call him again. If he wants to date you, let him call. If you never hear from him again, well, at least you didn't waste years wishing for something that didn't happen. Sometimes it's best to stop trying so hard to explain...he doesn't seem to want to hear it. Sorry.
send him an email apologizing for your psycho twin sister and that you will keep her away from him
I agree with the first answer, it asks you to post a question not a biography.
not to sound rude and all, maybe shorten it? And then i'll have no problem reading it.
make a long story short
Because we dont wanna read all of it
seeing other people?
maybe hes just a dick.
He's not your boyfriend but you are acting like you guys are together. Dating is one thing. But your behavior may have freaked him out a bit. Its only been 4 weeks AND no sex. He could only imagine how you could be if it was taken to that level. I think he's slowly backing out on contact because it may be too much for him to handle right now. Especially if his work is taking his time.
Sounds like he's just not that into you...
You didn't need to ask him so many times about the status of your situation... Asking him twice is enough.. Asking him more kind of makes you sound needy, and could freak him out.
I don't know what he's thinking right now.. It's kind of iffy.. But IMO.. it seems like he's not that into you and possibly made excuses about not being able to make it to dinner.
If I were you.. I'd stop responding to him, and wait if he ever calls you again or tries to establish contact with you..
Though ultimately I'd probably move on if worst comes to worst. /=
sounds like youre being a little too clingy too soon. give the guy some space, its only been 4 weeks. he probably doesnt want to be pestered by emails, im's, calls, texts all day. do your own thing for a while and if he comes around then maybe that was the problem. if not, its ok, plenty of other guys out there. remember, dont cling! good luck! :)
Something something 2.5678.Yeah IDK!!!
WOW! Yeah, that was long.. Only advise i can think to give you (since most of what i read i forgot already) Is that he probabaly isnt that interested or maybe he is. Dont spend your entire night waiting for him to call, instead go out or just hang with your friends, do something to get your mind off this.
Do you seriously want someone to read all of this?
Because I have had so many men disappear on me or blow me off just when things seem so great between us I assumed that his reply was his way of telling me that he is losing interest. Remember, he has really lacked communication this past week.
A few minutes later I responded by asking him if I would not be hearing from him anymore. He responded by saying, ';I didn't know we had plans set in stone for tonight';. Well, that does NOT answer my question.
I then reminded him of our conversation on Saturday about tentative plans for tonight and how he was supposed to get in touch with me. He responded by saying that he's had a one track mind work lately and not getting any sleep. Again, this does NOT answer my question.
I then tried calling him because I hate texting, but he didn't answer the phone. He then texted me and said that he was on the phone on a work related call and that he was getting ready to make another call.
I replied and again asked him if he was no longer intersted and that I would still like to date him. I also apologized for jumping to conclusions, but I am so used to be cut off without explanation by men that I could not help but judge the situation harshly. I also asked him to call me when he got a free minute from work. He did not call.
I later emailed him explaining myself again and asked him for his thoughts on the situation. All I want is an honest answer. Why is this so hard? Why won't he answer me? It's just words on a computer. We are not face to face. There is no confrontation. Just type the damn words and hit send. During our texting I asked him a simple question that required a simple one-word reply, ';yes';, or ';no';. I don't understand what the big deal is!
So, why is it that some men refuse to communicate? Especially with something so simple as this? At least I see it as simple. Either you want to date someone or you don't.
P.S. Just a little more detail...We have not had sex yet. He has had the opportunity (we've fooled around), but has been very respectful and not tried to take it to that level. So, it's not as if he's lost interest after getting the sex first. I'm guessing he wanted to take things slowly.Why won't he answer my question?!?
Hon, guys hate insecure women. You sound like a totally over the top insecure person who is just hanging around waiting on this guy. Look, if you don't hear from the guy, just let it go - get busy with your friends or whatever and don't be hanging around waiting on him and then all this calling and texting etc. etc. how annoying is what I would think if I was the guy. It has only been 4 weeks of dating and you are acting desperate and making demands on him - it's ridiculous. If this is how you acted with other guys then yep I guess they cut and ran.Why won't he answer my question?!?
women are always the communicators in a relationship
Your right, he should text back or talk to you about plans...but sometimes, you need to step back, give a little breathing room. MAKE him want to go out with you. You obviously like him a lot, but if you keep bothering him, it won't help him. Just tell him it would be nice if you communicated and talked once an a while, and that it would be fun to do something. Don't be to desperate
P.S. to your P.S..... Yeah, i can't say he's just lost intrest, but i think that shows that he wants to get to know you better, and that he doesn't want it to totally be over right after.
yea really...........i gave up after the first sentence
He's just not that into you. You need other things to do and other people to do them with. Even when people are married they are not ALL things to each other. In what I could manage to read and absorb, you seem to put allot of pressure on this man in your life to be there for you and to be available for you and to listen exactly to everything you might say and to then hold him accountable. How fun is that for him to be there for you? Ease up and get a broad spectrum of friends and possibly leave the one on one man thing alone until you can deal with the hanging out with friends part.
leave him alone
Ur bf is an idiot. Don't cry over him. Hes clearly not a good person and is avoiding u. Maybe there is something behind it. Maybe hes doing some important work.
maybe he feels like your moving to fast slow down maybe he is still dating other women and feel like your trying to jump into a relationship with him
My daughter went through something similar and I told her to stop reaching out to him. In my opinion he is not that interested and really lame for not giving you a direct answer. You are entitled to better than that. Please stop calling him and move on because he's not worth the effort. Besides really how much more can you do? Let it go so you can move on to better people. Keep an open and positive attitude and you will find someone much much better.
WOW;
i'm really sorry,and this must be really hard for you.
i've been through it, alot.
and it drove me crazy,
this could either go two ways, he will start communicating more with you, or you'll start letting all of this get to you, and it'll ruin you.
choose wisely, follow your heart.
With this economy, he doesn't want to do anything that will jeopardize his job, so you calling during work hours may be a little pushy. Maybe you came on to fast for him, or maybe there's an ethical conflict (are you working for him, or with a customer of his business?) Maybe too pushy is scaring him away, and it kind of sounds like you're nagging him - that's always a turn-off.
I agree this is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too young
Just calm down, give him some time..
He's answered your question so bluntly you're obviousy in the mood to reject what you think it means.
You are pushy girl! Waiting 3 hours between an IM and a text? Do you not both work and have other people in your lives to get to. So he made an obligation 'tonight' that was more firm than your tentative obligation for tonight.
If all of your 'communications' happened in the course of one day, I feel sorry for the poor guy. You've already asked him for his thoughts and he hasn't given them. One a guy is confronted (and YES, it is still confronting even though its in words) and backed into a corner he will either lie or come clean. But he hasn't done either; so he's ACTUALLY busy.
Just take a chill pill and wait for him to contact you. Be cool, be calm and just ask if something's come up this past week. Have you ever thought that maybe other people in his life want time with him, not just you? That COULD be the problem. It COULD also be an increase of work, a big deal going down. There's a ton of things it could be, so let him sort through it and wait for him to get whatever it is back under his belt. Only then will he be okay with talking to you about it, and then being inquisitive is fine. Bringing out the Spanish Inquisition is NEVER okay.
Blah blah blah blah blah.The answer is five.
Hes not interested. Move on and stop asking questions. Dont contact him anymore.
His responses were aimed at trying to understand why you were acting the way you were so that he would know how to best address your concerns, and to try to avoid any further misunderstandings. Because you were projecting your past problems onto your relationship with him and making assumptions accordingly, then you were creating a problem which did not yet exist. Whether you believe it or not you were being confrontational and unreasonable, and your actions sabotaged your relationship with him. And maybe you subconsciously meant to do this. And maybe you've done this sort of thing in the past, too.
He knows what your feeling. You made it known what you wanted...a simple answer, you didn't get one. I would not text or call him again. If he wants to date you, let him call. If you never hear from him again, well, at least you didn't waste years wishing for something that didn't happen. Sometimes it's best to stop trying so hard to explain...he doesn't seem to want to hear it. Sorry.
send him an email apologizing for your psycho twin sister and that you will keep her away from him
I agree with the first answer, it asks you to post a question not a biography.
not to sound rude and all, maybe shorten it? And then i'll have no problem reading it.
make a long story short
Because we dont wanna read all of it
seeing other people?
maybe hes just a dick.
He's not your boyfriend but you are acting like you guys are together. Dating is one thing. But your behavior may have freaked him out a bit. Its only been 4 weeks AND no sex. He could only imagine how you could be if it was taken to that level. I think he's slowly backing out on contact because it may be too much for him to handle right now. Especially if his work is taking his time.
Sounds like he's just not that into you...
You didn't need to ask him so many times about the status of your situation... Asking him twice is enough.. Asking him more kind of makes you sound needy, and could freak him out.
I don't know what he's thinking right now.. It's kind of iffy.. But IMO.. it seems like he's not that into you and possibly made excuses about not being able to make it to dinner.
If I were you.. I'd stop responding to him, and wait if he ever calls you again or tries to establish contact with you..
Though ultimately I'd probably move on if worst comes to worst. /=
sounds like youre being a little too clingy too soon. give the guy some space, its only been 4 weeks. he probably doesnt want to be pestered by emails, im's, calls, texts all day. do your own thing for a while and if he comes around then maybe that was the problem. if not, its ok, plenty of other guys out there. remember, dont cling! good luck! :)
Something something 2.5678.Yeah IDK!!!
WOW! Yeah, that was long.. Only advise i can think to give you (since most of what i read i forgot already) Is that he probabaly isnt that interested or maybe he is. Dont spend your entire night waiting for him to call, instead go out or just hang with your friends, do something to get your mind off this.
Do you seriously want someone to read all of this?
What's the answer to this riddle?
Four men are sentenced to death by firing squad: A, B, C and D.
The head executioner is in a good mood and decides to play a game with them and if they win he'll let them live.
They're buried neck deep so that only their heads are above the ground and can only look forward and nowhere else.
A, B and C are on buried on 1 side of a wall behind each other, facing the wall so that A can see the back of B and C's heads, B can see the back of C's head and C can only see the wall. The 4th man, D, is on the other side of the wall and cannot see the other 3.
Hats are put on the men; A gets a black hat, B gets a white hat, C gets a black hat and D gets a white hat.
They're told that there are 2 black hats and 2 white hats, but don't know that they were put on in an alternating sequence.
The head executioner then gives them five minutes for one person to say what the colour of their hat is.
It has to be the first sentence that comes out of any person's mouth; so the men can't communicate with each other.
At the last minute one man gets it right.
Who is he and how did he do it?What's the answer to this riddle?
a gave the answer as b and c have black or white so there for a and d must have the other colour.What's the answer to this riddle?
B would answer.
Since A didn't answer, he can assume that his hat is not the same color as C's (for if B and C were the same color, A would have known what color his hat was). Therefore, B can assume that his hat is not the same color as C, which he has seen to be black, and he can answer ';My hat is white.';
I don't know, but am very curious what the answer is. My son is guessing that the answer is D. I will be checking back to see what the answer is. So if you find a right answer or if you choose someone as best answer can you put the answer to this problem. I will be asking my husband and daughter tonight, maybe they can figure it out. Its a real good one. take care.
If they can see the back of each other's heads, can't they see the hats?
A.... Da Wall Is A Chain Link Fence,lol....
I'm going with Sokka on this one
The head executioner is in a good mood and decides to play a game with them and if they win he'll let them live.
They're buried neck deep so that only their heads are above the ground and can only look forward and nowhere else.
A, B and C are on buried on 1 side of a wall behind each other, facing the wall so that A can see the back of B and C's heads, B can see the back of C's head and C can only see the wall. The 4th man, D, is on the other side of the wall and cannot see the other 3.
Hats are put on the men; A gets a black hat, B gets a white hat, C gets a black hat and D gets a white hat.
They're told that there are 2 black hats and 2 white hats, but don't know that they were put on in an alternating sequence.
The head executioner then gives them five minutes for one person to say what the colour of their hat is.
It has to be the first sentence that comes out of any person's mouth; so the men can't communicate with each other.
At the last minute one man gets it right.
Who is he and how did he do it?What's the answer to this riddle?
a gave the answer as b and c have black or white so there for a and d must have the other colour.What's the answer to this riddle?
B would answer.
Since A didn't answer, he can assume that his hat is not the same color as C's (for if B and C were the same color, A would have known what color his hat was). Therefore, B can assume that his hat is not the same color as C, which he has seen to be black, and he can answer ';My hat is white.';
I don't know, but am very curious what the answer is. My son is guessing that the answer is D. I will be checking back to see what the answer is. So if you find a right answer or if you choose someone as best answer can you put the answer to this problem. I will be asking my husband and daughter tonight, maybe they can figure it out. Its a real good one. take care.
If they can see the back of each other's heads, can't they see the hats?
A.... Da Wall Is A Chain Link Fence,lol....
I'm going with Sokka on this one
Is your partner feminist, are you? How does it affect your marriage?
I am, so of course he is. I wouldn't be with a man who didn't believe in the equality of the sexes. In fact, what originally attracted me to him was that he would dress goth/androgenous and causually rant about the constructs of gender ie. 'pink is for girls' why or 'why can't men where skirts' and to tell you the truth he did look better in a skirt than most women! Hahaha.
How do you think this affects your marriage? Personally, I find that it helps in communication. I don't have to live by stereotypes that state how men and women communicate. Yes, that is how we are taught to communicate, but it's not natural. We can be comfortable as ourselves without any notions based on our sex organs of man and woman. We are closer without the cloak of gender roles. I think that we also have a lot more respect and support for each other both personally and professionally because of our views, so we're better partners for it.Is your partner feminist, are you? How does it affect your marriage?
Actually I'm bisexual and feminist and I'd always assumed that if I had a serious relationship with a man it would be with an ';alternative'; man like the questioner's partner. Boy was I surprised to get involved with a ';straight'; straight man!
My husband's the sort of guy who sees the two genders as tending to be quite different - although he certainly doesn't see women as ';the weaker sex';. I gues it's more along thhe lines of equal but different. Still, he would defend someone's right to be as they choose and wouldn't expect a woman to be limited by her gender.
I find that although our views are often different, our values tend to be the same. For instance I was a peace campaigner in the 80's - he was in the military. Both of us believe it's wrong to just stand by and that we should do what we can to make the world a better place.
Being with him has taught me a lot about straight people and it's taught him a lot about feminist/alternative people. We both believe we're better people as a result.
Glad to hear your relationship's going so well... my guess is that's more shared values than ideologies though ;-)Is your partner feminist, are you? How does it affect your marriage?
My wife and I are both feminists and we've been deliriously happy with each other for over seventeen years.
How do you think this affects your marriage? Personally, I find that it helps in communication. I don't have to live by stereotypes that state how men and women communicate. Yes, that is how we are taught to communicate, but it's not natural. We can be comfortable as ourselves without any notions based on our sex organs of man and woman. We are closer without the cloak of gender roles. I think that we also have a lot more respect and support for each other both personally and professionally because of our views, so we're better partners for it.Is your partner feminist, are you? How does it affect your marriage?
Actually I'm bisexual and feminist and I'd always assumed that if I had a serious relationship with a man it would be with an ';alternative'; man like the questioner's partner. Boy was I surprised to get involved with a ';straight'; straight man!
My husband's the sort of guy who sees the two genders as tending to be quite different - although he certainly doesn't see women as ';the weaker sex';. I gues it's more along thhe lines of equal but different. Still, he would defend someone's right to be as they choose and wouldn't expect a woman to be limited by her gender.
I find that although our views are often different, our values tend to be the same. For instance I was a peace campaigner in the 80's - he was in the military. Both of us believe it's wrong to just stand by and that we should do what we can to make the world a better place.
Being with him has taught me a lot about straight people and it's taught him a lot about feminist/alternative people. We both believe we're better people as a result.
Glad to hear your relationship's going so well... my guess is that's more shared values than ideologies though ;-)Is your partner feminist, are you? How does it affect your marriage?
My wife and I are both feminists and we've been deliriously happy with each other for over seventeen years.
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