These to be given by people who are happily married or people who have divorced. All these kind of things. Knid of like warnings.
What do you think? Now that I have been with my wife 15 years I know alot that I didn't know when I was just getting married. It would have helped me a lot.So many marriage issues yet no true help.?
Marriage is what you make it.
It is difficult to remain in a relationship with just one person....and think on it as forever...as the vows suggest.
It is work, it is compromise, it is having sex when you really just don't feel like it.
People that first get married have no idea of the road ahead of them. The problems that WILL arise. It's how you deal with it that counts.
Love is a choice......not just a feeling.So many marriage issues yet no true help.?
I AGREE with you so much!! Had gone through a divorce myself I noticed the same thing and this is what I came up with: In the 1950's there were all of these magazines, books, and tv telling women how to be a better wife. Now the media tells women ' how to look sexy for their ';man';', not their husbands. I think the media (ie womens or even mens magaizines) could make big bucks offering marriage advice and communication skills between husbands and wives.
What Im trying to say here is in the 1950's the media supported marriages and offered family advice. If the present media offered the support (but obviously with a modern twist of men and women's rolls in the house) then maybe people wouldnt be so quick to drop their spouse.
Being very general, I think you guys are spending too much time talking to each other. I mean, most marriages I have encountered with problems, are largely because the couples become 'comfortable' with each other. Then they seek excitement out side of the marriage. Seek excitement inside the marriage. Act like you want to be with your spouse more than anything in the world. Act like you are in love. And you soon will be. If you have a fantasy about someone else, enact it with your spouse.
I can agree with you... why go to a Marriage Counselor that's never been married, having spent 4, 6 or 8 years in college doesn't mean you have the experience to tell me how to save my married. My parents have been married for 50 years, they been through it all, the good the bad, near death experiences and almost getting a divorce about 40 years ago. WHO WOULD YOU RATHER GET HELP FROM. I think the bible is a great tool but if you are catholic what does a priest know about marriage. The bible can tell a lot of wonderful things about marriage but there are time when you want to here someone opinion on something that has been through the trenches.
Umm.. most marriage now a days fail because people give up too easily %26amp; are getting more and more disrespectful. Just because you're unhappy in a marriage doesn't mean it's over.. it means there needs to be work. Lack of sex is no excuse to cheat.. I think men that cheat are pussy's because instead of talking to their wives or girlfriends about it.. they just act on it. The best way to heal marriage wounds is to speak directly with your spouse and work from there.. I hate how people always listen to others.. their problems %26amp; fixes might not be yours.
They do have classes and there are all kinds of resources in the community. Stop your whining and own up to your responsibility as a husband and accept the fact that the state of your marriage has everything to do with you. Stop talking to your buddy and talk to your wife.
I know several people in unhappy marriages. Things have changed over the years. Relationships didn't have the pressures they do today. They are cheap today. With a 50% divorce rate, why go there. People take each other for granted! They let themselves go. Men and women are just different and understanding this difference is part of the battle. Understanding why things are black %26amp; white for men and why things are emotional for women...etc.
You have to make dates for you and your spouse. Go somewhere new. Do something off the wall. Do it once a month.
People can only learn so much from a class. Experience will be their best teacher.
i believe that couples who arent really happy owe it to themselves to change. we are only here for 70-80years or so, which is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. no one should waste that time living unhappy and depressed. i believe in taking inventory of my life and if something makes me unhappy, i also believe in working on that until i am happy with it. the more of those issues you resolve, the happier you become as a person.
couples have therapists, pastors and other options to work on thier relationships. if you cannot communicate, go learn how. if your sex life isnt what it should be, find out why and fix it. life is a choice and it is ruled by the ones we make. nothing is beyond fixing, even if something the way to fix it is to walk away. you just have to try and learn when and how to do what you need to do.
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