More female hypocrisy?

Jazz said: Hmm, don't women complain a lot about men who ';don't communicate';? So when men give an honest opinion about a haircut or her cooking, she doesn't want to hear it unless it's something positive? How childish. A man can't even relay how stressful work is because apparently being a housemom is 10 times worse? Don't women also complain about fathers not spending time with their children? so when a man offers to watch the kids he's still in the wrong for offering?





This was a comment on an article about ';10 things Husbands should never do';. I thought what Jazz said was very true. Women don't want to hear anything against them. They only want positive comments, even if it means lying. Somehow, society has portrayed housewives as a bad thing, so now there is a prevailing attitude that housework is harder than any job. Oh, you're back from fighting in Afghanistan, honey? Is that a scar? Well, I've been doing the laundry! Don't think you've got it so bloody hard you selfish bastard!





How is a woman who creates and maintains a family a bad thing? Aside from that often two incomes are necessary in a household - because society does view housewives as pitiful figures.More female hypocrisy?
A women who keeps house and raises kids works the equivalent of two full time jobs, if you ever watch Dr Phil you would know this. And women do hear the nice thing hubby says but you missed the point. She wants emotion something men shut off when they dont get their own way and act like children. You sound young and uneducated, try reading a book.More female hypocrisy?
Female responder here. First of all, props to KittyKat--well put. Secondly, Jazz isn't speaking for EVERY man / woman dynamic--he's making sweeping generalizations. Third, I'd kill to be financially stable enough to be a housewife. So there you go :-)





Okay, let's expound: If a person (guy or girl) offers negative opinions without being asked, yes, he / she is being ';negative';. Conversely, if a person asks for another's opinion and doesn't get the answer they wanted to hear, then they shouldn't have asked the question. Shame on them for asking for phony validation.





Yeah, some women do complain about their husband's lack of attentiveness toward their children. I don't have kids so I can't speak from personal experience other than having an absentee dad myself. My two bits are: if you're too busy, broke or disinterested, don't have kids. If that option comes too late, do everything you can to make your kids' lives worth living--you owe it to them.





It all comes down to balance and taking responsibility for your own sh*t. No need to blame either gender when you've got your own life to manage.
There is nothing wrong with stay at home mothers.





I honestly do believe that they have one of the hardest jobs- it never ends.





But stay at home wives (without children) seem a bit pathetic to me.


What does a stay at home wife do? How are they any different from people who are just lazy and don't want to get a job?
@ bookgirl. Turn off your god forsaken tv and read a book! Men don't shut off, they function differently. When an emotion 'registers' they don't feel a strong need to react to it every time. That's not to say they're cold as when an emotion 'registers' strongly they give off a strong reaction. The only situation I can think off where they shut off is when something 'registers' painfully but even then not every man would do that.


If you're going to stereotype at least do it in such a way that it is relevant and not based on something a famous person who's job depends on being biased toward women or the feminazis will chase him with their pitchforks. Wait no, they wouldn't have pitched forks as working in the garden/veggie patch makes you an old-fashion servant of men. Maybe they'd use pepper spray as they're 'modern women'
I am a woman and I dont think that being a housewife is as hard as having a job. I have a kid and I still dont think that. Its much harder being a parent and working at the same time so I wouldnt listen to anyone that said that personally. I work 25 hours a week and look after my child the whole time she comes to work with me as I work in a nursery. I also do a lot of the cooking and cleaning but I dont think my life is 1/5 as hard as my husbands life but thats just how I feel. He does 40 hours a week in a warehouse and is outside a lot in the rain and cold with a lot of manual labour and to me that is loads harder.





my opinion but my mum and dad always said having kids shouldnt be an excuse not to contribute so its my upbringing that wont let me sit at home. I want to be a good role model to my child, help my husband out and put something back in to society which is why I work.





Anyone that moans staying at home looking after a couple of kids and tidying is hard is ridiculous. I do all that and look after 30 when I get to work and it still isnt that hard really. I mean there are times I get stressed out, tired and am busy but its not like I am working down a coalmine or anything. I have done a lot of much harder, worse jobs than what I am doing now. I really cant stand moaning housewives personally
Usually not communicating has nothing to do with sharing opinions, but rather emotions.


Usually upsetment over honest opinions has nothing to do with the opinion itself, but rather the hurtful way it's expressed.








You seem to be awfully fond of sweeping, laughable generalizations. Your post is more a rant than anything.
I don't think being a housewife is particularly hard, but as far as I know most married women nowadays aren't housewives, they are all busy 'juggling' a job and a family.





I do think women are inclined to be touchy if men offer criticism of anything they do, I know I am, though I am getting better at accepting it.





And I think a man should be able to talk about work being stressful, any woman who objects to that is highly unreasonable in my opinion.





And if you are a housewife, then the day-to-day care of the children is your responsibility rather than your husband's, and you should be pleased if he offers to look after them while you go out.





I think this list of things not to do is pretty silly actually.