Monday, August 16, 2010

Question about men in general?

This is an open question i'm not asking about any specific subject. okay, i know the biggest most common complaint from women about men is the lack of communication skills. I have awesome communication skills i am straight out with my thoughts/feelings. very blunt. He does not communicate. Ive already asked you guys enough question's that led me to realize i cant get him to communicate, he is a man. We've been together for almost 6 yrs. Have a son. Is there any relationship advice anyone can give me? Just from your experience? doesn't have to be on a specific topic. We are doing well but it doesn't hurt to hear some advice from others about men in generalization. How to make them happy, how to get them to be nice.. etc. Ive recently learned, i need to have attitude with him and be a little less than nice sometimes to get treated like gold. I tend to be a pushover. So if there is anything else i haven't yet learned in 6 years please let me know.Question about men in general?
well,





when one manipulates people for his own ends, it will end bad always...





A men is not much different (essentially) from a woman...





Of course there's a different body, a little different language, and a little different psychology... and I insist on LITTLE...





basically all people are persons first of all..


...and any person has the right to choose, and no one can steal this right from a person...





a person have natural characteristics, needs time, needs space and....


...respect for her natural characteristics, her space, her time...





So you see, if you are talkative, and you managed to stay with him fulfilling somehow your characteristic to be talkative then it's super ok..





But you cannot make anyone to be talkative just because you want him to be so... this is childish at most... (I'm not saying you are doing it:P)...





It's impossible to make anyone to be other than he is...


Maybe it seems possible when you push / force him for a phew days... But everyone knows that a morning will come when he will wake up the same as he always was...





Forcing is then the cause of almost 99% of conflicts in relationships..





What's most important in a relationship is the existence of 2 happy people there... who understand happiness clearly, and know how to be happy day after day...





Happiness has nothing to do with any thing or any person.. Happiness has NO CAUSE...


This is contrary to what we have been taught of course...


But happiness is what it is...


You can choose ALWAYS to be happy, no matter the situation...





But from childhood, people are forced to believe that ONLY WHEN you have that car, that house, that job, that wife, that money THEN HAPPINESS IS PERMITTED.. .not otherwise..





But happiness is a choice really..





If both understand this simple fact, and invest themselves to be happier each day (it's an effort especially in the beginning when you train your brain to help you see things this way, but afterwards is piece of cake)...


...then it's better everyday...





characteristics, time, space... respect for these.. and happiness..





It doesn't matter a person is a male or female...:)





Hope I helped...:)

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