Gay: What Is The Real Meaning?

I've tried manhunt, gay.com, craigslist, match.com and etc. I am sick and tired of being told that I am nobody's type. I am also sick and tired of having head games played against me. One guy tells me lets do drinks together and then he ignores me. When I try to communicate with other gay men, I am told that I am a stalker online.





My question is this: What is being gay really about? It seems to be about good looks, perfect hair and teeth, youth and sex. If you are over the age of 30 you better have the looks of a porn star; so it seems. It is unreal how many guys refuse to date me or be my friend cause I am 35 and don't look like a twink. It is not just the guys 26,27 but also the guys 38, 39 and etc.......





Am I wasting my time being gay?





razz79900@yahoo.comGay: What Is The Real Meaning?
i think it is becasue you are looking online... i know it is tough but try going out to a gay bar or something and find a guy... it is hard and if you feel like you are wasting time then don't do it... but i would say that it is probably worth it. and fyi, not all porn starts are good looking XD


good luck and happy hunting ^^





~*Tear*~Gay: What Is The Real Meaning?
I don't know are you? I am 62 but look like I am in my early forties. I like who I see in the mirror and have made him my best friend. I know how to be by myself as well as continue to be me in a room full of twinks. And I don't think I look like porn star. You have to be happy with yourself before you will be happy with anybody. It has nothing to do with being gay. You and your friend might want to do some self assessments.





Good Luck.
Although I am 15 I will never, and I mean NEVER have that kind of morals when looking for someone. So many people will base it on looks, but there are definently those out there who don't base things on first sight about looks, I sure as hell won't. You aren't waisting your time, I think you just are running into the wrong people.
gay= being happy


or as its used today, having attraction for the same gender.


thats. it. online, ppl are wayyy more shallow. its all abt the looks on the ddating sites, everything else is secondary. a hot guy would catch ur eye, right? whereas a not as attractive guy, ud skip over. its like that. since u dont rly meet those ppl, yea, ppll are shallow. id suggst meeting guys in rl instead. maybe try gay communities/club/bars/etc


%26lt;3
No, it's just society these days. And if no one's into you then why would you want to date them in the first place?





My advice is to go to a gay bar or go clubbing. If a guy's into you then he'll approach you.





It's not just gay people who care about that, everybody does.
well, i must say that i am 19, and i dont prefer the ';twink'; build... there is hope out there, you just have to keep looking and i would say dont try online sites, there are only people on there looking for a fling... i suggest bars and all that jazz
Maybe the trouble is your just trying to meet a guy online, try going out there and meet someone in the real world hun





dont give up


When you find the right guy


he well be worth the waiting for
Being happy is the first meaning, but the recent meaning is commonly accepted in America as a homosexual male.
Happy =]
Are you wasting your time being gay? Um...I am speechless.
Loving and being attracted to people of the same sex. Stereotypically, we're all about sex....so false...
I am 57 years old, a little paunchy, and am by no means a slave to fashion. I have absolutely no trouble getting men to go out with me, so not everyone is as shallow as the people you have come across.


I admit that the chatters on gay.com can be very cruel. They seem to think that they're God's gift to gaydom, and that absolutely everyone would fall over themselves to get to go with them. These are just the kind of people I don't want anything to do with. To borrow from Marian the Librarian in the Music Man, I want someone who's more interested in me than he is in himself, and more interested in us than in me.


Don't give up. He's out there looking for you.
I think your looking in the wrong places. Everything you mentioned is for people who are looking for sex and not a relationship. One of my best friends was a gay man (he recently died from AIDS) and I'm telling you all he ever did was look for his next lay. He was a pretty twink boy but it sure didn't last long.





Change your tactics and start hanging out where the other older gay men hang out. Find out where your local gay church is and start going. You can become active in the male groups they have there. Find other gay social groups and hang out with them. Go there looking for friendships instead of love and perhaps you will find your soulmate.
You are 'meeting' the wrong guys.





I am in a similar boat. I don't want to meet up with these kinds of guys anyhow.... Now if I could just stop meeting severe closet cases or married guys that hide their wife until our third date, I'll be great.





The problem is we are putting our-self in these situations where we are meeting these kind of men...





The right guy is out there for you... and for me. We just have to change the vibe we are giving off... Now how do we follow my advice?
';Am I wasting my time being gay?';





As opposed to being straight, you mean?





This question makes no sense.





If you're truly gay, then being attracted to men is an intrinsic part of who you are. Asking this question is like asking ';Am I wasting my time being left-handed?'; or ';Am I wasting my time being blue-eyed?';





Where you're wasting your time is in trying to find men online. If you want to find Mr Right, you're not likely to find him there. If you live in a metro area of any size, there are bound to be GLBT social organizations, clubs, and houses of worship that are GLBT-friendly. Turn off the computer, get up out of the chair, clean yourself up and GET OUT OF THE HOUSE and go meet some real live men. Get to know them, give them a chance to get to know you, make some gay friends, and see where those friendships go.