My ex-husband just won't let go?

Hod do I communicate with a man who still hates me? My ex-husband and I split up over 7 years ago and he still can't talk to me without bringing up the fact that I left. We have both moved on. I am re-married to a wonderful man and he has had a baby with someone else. We have an 8 year old together, but every time we talk, which is not that often, he brings up that I was the one who left. How can I fix this strained relationship for our son's sake? I don't want to be all goody-goody with him, but some sort of decency would be nice. Any ideas?My ex-husband just won't let go?
Simply refuse to discuss anything with your ex that pertains to your history/former relationship with him. If he brings something up, either change the subject (preferably to focus the conversation on your child) or flat-out tell him (with no emotion - be very business-like, even if it kills you), 'We have both moved on with our lives, so I think it's best that our conversations only entail our child because he is the priority here'.





If he can't bring himself to refrain from bringing up with the past, see if you can arrange all meetings and conversations to somehow include your spouse and/or his. That'd put a stop to it, lol.My ex-husband just won't let go?
You can't change him unless he thinks it is in his best interest to change. If he insists on bringing up the subject tell him you will meet with him and his wife somewhere, and the three of you can discuss it. Tell him maybe that way it can be resolved once and for all. Tell him if he doesn't want to discuss it in front of his wife then he better not bring it up to you again. Tell him if he does you will call his wife and set up the meeting yourself.
Why should he be decent with you? You left him when he was still in love with you. Looks like you will just have to live with it, because if you try to change him, he will just resent you more.
THE NEXT TIME HE SAYS IT....





REPLY...THAT DISCUSSION WAS ON THE TABLE MORE THAN SEVEN YRS AGO...





NOW WE NEED TO WORK TOGETHER TO BE GOOD PARENTS TO OUR 8 YR OLD.





WE BOTH WANT THE BEST FOR OUR CHILD...THAT IS WHAT WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT.
You cannot make him do anything. You can only do your part. Remember who he is and that he has feelings, deep feelings. Continue to be polite and do not speak one word of the past with him. Write him a letter about your son and how you two will be forever apart of his life. Do not use words that would insult him, cause a reaction, choose your words carefully and remember the purpose of your letter. if he chooses to hate you, time is the only thing that will heal his feelings. You know him best, use that to help yourself and him.
you cant fix him he has to fix himself